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You suspect that your husband isn’t attracted to you anymore, but you just can’t figure out if you’re overthinking things. Is he actually acting different than usual, or is it all in your head? Luckily, there are easy-to-spot signs that can help you assess the situation so you can start working on your relationship. In this article, we’ll go over all the signs that your husband isn’t attracted to you, including expert-backed advice on how you can deal with the issue and move forward. If you’re ready to reignite the spark in your marriage, read on!
This article is based on an interview with our licensed professional counselor, Tara Vossenkemper, founder of Tara Vossenkemper Consulting, LLC. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- If you’re spending less time with your husband, it could be a sign that he’s lost interest in you. To rekindle your romance, schedule a date at least once a month.
- A lack of sex could mean that your husband isn’t attracted to you. Ask him about his needs and try to spice things up in the bedroom.
- If your husband always picks a fight, his attraction might be waning. Calmly confront him to get to the bottom of things and express how he makes you feel.
Steps
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Warnings
- If your husband is verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive, get help by contacting an organization like the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Communicate with a representative by calling 1-800-799-7233(SAFE), using their online chat feature, or texting “START” to 88788.[21]Thanks
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