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When a relationship you care about is draining you emotionally, you might feel desperate to fix it. Maybe you spend every free moment worried about your partner or about when your next fight is due to erupt. After dealing with so much stress, it makes sense that you'd be looking for answers. We've outlined tons of tips that can help you improve your relationship's negative patterns. To learn how you can fix your emotionally draining relationship, read on.
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- QuestionWhy does my boyfriend drain my energy?Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPCDr. Tara Vossenkemper is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the Founder and Managing Director of The Counseling Hub, LLC, a group counseling practice located in Columbia, Missouri. She is also the Founder of and a Business Consultant with Tara Vossenkemper Consulting, LLC, a consulting service for therapy practice owners. With over nine years of experience, she specializes in using the Gottman Method of relationship therapy with couples on the brink of divorce, who have conflict, or who feel disconnected from one another. Dr. Vossenkemper holds a BA in Psychology from The University of Missouri, Saint Louis, an MA in Counseling from Missouri Baptist University, and a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision from The University of Missouri, Saint Louis. She has also completed Level 3 training in the Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach and has been formally trained in both the Prepare-Enrich Premarital Couples Counseling approach and the PREP Approach for couples counseling.
Licensed Professional CounselorTo answer that, you must analyze your life and try to make sense of the approximate timeline. How long have you been feeling emotionally drained? By doing this, you'll potentially find the possible causes for the issue. If needed, see a therapist to help you figure out what to do.
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- ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 18 January 2022.
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/conflict-resolution/
- ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/how-to-fight-fair/
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-to-stop-complaining-7-secrets-to-being-happier
- ↑ https://www.mhanational.org/taking-good-care-yourself
- ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 18 January 2022.
- ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 18 January 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/valley-girl-brain/201404/does-your-relationship-need-break
- ↑ Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 18 January 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201601/12-crucial-questions-about-your-relationships-future
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