This article was co-authored by Jay Reid, LPCC and by How.com.vn staff writer, Dev Murphy, MA. Jay Reid is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) in private practice in San Francisco, CA. He specializes in helping clients who have survived a narcissistic parent or partner. Treatment focuses upon helping clients identify and challenge self-diminishing beliefs as a result of narcissistic abuse. Jay holds a BA in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and an MS in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University.
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If you were in a relationship with someone who is vain, egotistical, attention-seeking, and lacks empathy, you might consider them to be narcissistic. It’s best to cut them off if you can, but if you decide you want them back, we're here to help. In this article, we’ll tell you exactly how to show your ex what they’ve been missing so they come crawling back to you. Just keep in mind that people who display narcissistic tendencies don't necessarily have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), which only a therapist can diagnose, and not everyone with NPD is toxic or abusive.[1]
Things You Should Know
- Get your ex to come crawling back to you by giving them the silent treatment and acting as if you don’t care about them: they’ll crave your attention.
- They'll feel insecure when they see you thriving, so date other people, pursue your hobbies and career, and show your ex you’re successful and happy.
- After you’ve distanced yourself for a while, lure them back in by appealing to their ego: compliment them and take the blame for your relationship ending.
Steps
Expert Q&A
Tips
- Remember that not all people with NPD are abusive, and many people with clinical NPD are able to manage their behavior with therapy and/or medication.Thanks
- In the same vein, not everyone who is abusive has NPD. In the end, it doesn’t matter if your ex has clinical NPD or not: if they hurt you, they hurt you, and you're probably better off without them.Thanks
Warnings
- Getting back together with your ex isn’t a good idea if your relationship was toxic or abusive. If you are in an abusive relationship and you need help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.Thanks
Expert Interview
Thanks for reading our article! If you’d like to learn more about relationships, check out our in-depth interview with Jay Reid, LPCC.
References
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201610/8-tips-protect-yourself-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.socialmediatoday.com/social-networks/how-spot-narcissist-social-media
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201610/8-tips-protect-yourself-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=69&v=d8ZCQcGaTwM&feature=youtu.be
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201610/8-tips-protect-yourself-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201610/8-tips-protect-yourself-narcissist
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/breaking-up-with-a-narcissistic-personality#what-to-expect
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/breaking-up-with-a-narcissistic-personality#letting-go
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
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