This article was co-authored by John Keegan. John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
There are 9 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.
How.com.vn marks an article as reader-approved once it receives enough positive feedback. This article has 11 testimonials from our readers, earning it our reader-approved status.
This article has been viewed 1,610,861 times.
Having a crush on a girl can be really fun but it can also cause some nerves. Trying to let her know you like her can be a challenge, but there are lots of fun ways to do it. If you are looking to build a romantic friendship with a girl but you don't know how to get the ball rolling, here are a few pointers that may help you break the ice.
How to Show Interest in a Girl
- Lean in and smile when you're chatting with her.
- Give her a genuine compliment on her personality or skills.
- Tell jokes to show her your sense of humor.
- Send her cute and fun texts throughout the day.
- Plan a one-on-one activity based on her interests.
- Let her know directly that you have feelings for her.
Steps
How Do I Approach a Girl I’m Interested In?
Attract Girls and Win Their Hearts with this Expert Series
Expert Q&A
- QuestionHow do you drop a hint that you like a girl?John KeeganJohn Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
Dating CoachIt's all about the little flourishes and movements. The smiles, the eye contact, and the tone of your voice. It doesn't need to be super flirty or anything like that. She'll pick up on what you're putting down, just try to play it cool. - QuestionHow can I talk to her if I'm super nervous?John KeeganJohn Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
Dating CoachJust ask her lots of questions about herself. People tend to enjoy talking about themselves, and if you take an interest in her hobbies, beliefs, and interests, she'll respond positively to you. - Questionat what age can i jave a girlfriendNAnsloverCommunity AnswerThat's really up to you and your parents. A lot depends on your maturity and what it means to you to have a girlfriend. Try talking to your parents about any guidelines they have to get a good answer.
Tips
- Learn to take a hint if she's not responding. Some girls just won't like you, and that's life. There are plenty of other girls out there that will like you!Thanks
- Be kind and helpful to her. Make an effort to treat her differently from everyone else, but be nice to others as well. If you are nice to everyone, she will get the idea that you are a nice person.Thanks
Tips from our Readers
- When showing interest, give her space and don't come across as overly clingy. Notice how she responds to your attentiveness. If her body language seems closed off or she gives short replies, she may feel smothered.
- When complimenting her appearance, also compliment her other positive qualities like talents, intelligence and personality. She'll appreciate your attention to those personal traits in addition to her looks.
- While confidence is great, also remember to be respectful of boundaries. Ask politely before initiating physical touch, and immediately stop if she seems uncomfortable. Don't assume you can kiss her.
- If telling her directly that you like her, choose the right private moment so she doesn't feel embarrassed. Be prepared for possible rejection, and don't get angry if she doesn't reciprocate.
- After asking her out, have a specific suggestion in mind like a movie, cafe, etc. She'll feel more special if you put thought into planning a personalized activity you'll both enjoy.
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201706/11-key-flirting-techniques-women
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/everybody-is-stupid-except-you/201812/compliments-how-get-happy-and-make-better-world
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/slightly-blighty/201509/the-psychology-why-being-funny-when-flirting-is-vital
- ↑ https://time.com/59786/how-to-flirt-backed-by-scientific-research/
- ↑ https://time.com/59786/how-to-flirt-backed-by-scientific-research/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/201802/seven-ways-texting-defines-your-relationship
- ↑ https://www.grammarly.com/blog/dating-app-guide/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201409/just-say-it
- ↑ https://www.complex.com/life/how-to-ask-a-girl-out/make-your-intentions-clear
About This Article
To show a girl you like her, smile and make eye contact when you see her. You can also compliment her on her skills, accomplishments, and fashion choice to show you pay attention to her. For example, if she wears her hair differently, say something like, "I love your hair. It really suits you." Once you’re on good speaking terms, try touching her lightly on the arm or shoulder when you laugh at her jokes, which is a subtle way to show that you're into her. If you think she might like you too, ask her on a date or to hang out, which will make it obvious you’re interested in her if she doesn’t know already. For more tips, including how to work out if a girl likes you back, read on!
Reader Success Stories
- "I've been trying to pursue a girl for awhile. I've gotten to know her a bit, but I wanted to know how I could show interest without openly saying it just yet. This was very helpful."..." more
Did this article help you?
⚠️ Disclaimer:
Content from Wiki How English language website. Text is available under the Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike License; additional terms may apply.
Wiki How does not encourage the violation of any laws, and cannot be responsible for any violations of such laws, should you link to this domain, or use, reproduce, or republish the information contained herein.
- - A few of these subjects are frequently censored by educational, governmental, corporate, parental and other filtering schemes.
- - Some articles may contain names, images, artworks or descriptions of events that some cultures restrict access to
- - Please note: Wiki How does not give you opinion about the law, or advice about medical. If you need specific advice (for example, medical, legal, financial or risk management), please seek a professional who is licensed or knowledgeable in that area.
- - Readers should not judge the importance of topics based on their coverage on Wiki How, nor think a topic is important just because it is the subject of a Wiki article.