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If you're a woman, you may have noticed things about your boyfriend that lead you to believe he's gay or interested in men. Sexuality is highly complex and sensitive, and there are a lot of inaccurate stereotypes out there that don't truly reflect a person's sexual orientation. You can't know for sure unless he tells you himself, but noting possible signs can make it easier to start a conversation. Keep reading for a thorough list of potential signs that your boyfriend might be gay.
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- Don’t rely on gay stereotypes like an effeminate voice or walk, flashy or tight clothing, his TV and music preferences, or being a neat freak to determine your boyfriend’s sexuality. There are many gay men that exhibit none of these traits, as well as many straight men that do.Thanks
- You did not cause your boyfriend to be gay or to engage in secretive behavior. If your boyfriend is sneaking around to meet other men, remember that his actions are about him and his unmet needs, not you.Thanks
- Keep in mind he could also identify as bisexual or pansexual.Thanks
Warnings
- For the social, emotional, and physical well-being of your boyfriend, don't discuss his sexuality with others or publicly out him. It’s possible that he is not fully aware of his own sexuality yet, or he's hiding it because of safety concerns. A forced outing can be highly damaging to his mental health and personal relationships.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201412/is-your-man-gay-straight-or-bisexual
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/201501/straight-women-and-their-gay-husbands
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-erotic-code/201501/straight-women-and-their-gay-husbands
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201412/is-your-man-gay-straight-or-bisexual
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2902177/
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- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4887282/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inclusive-insight/202112/can-gay-and-straight-men-really-be-friends
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/communication-success/202005/10-signs-internalized-homophobia-and-gaslighting
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/homophobes-might-be-hidden-homosexuals/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2678796/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/close-encounters/201706/is-tinder-really-hookup-app
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/201701/why-physical-attraction-matters-and-when-it-might-not
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201503/gay-love-straight-sense
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5442596/
- ↑ Kateri Berasi, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 9 September 2021.
- ↑ https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/understanding-anxiety-and-depression-lgbtq
- ↑ Kateri Berasi, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 9 September 2021.
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