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Non negotiables: we all have them. Though love relies on compromise and acceptance, there are some things that you just can't budge on. Identifying your non negotiables can help you find your perfect partner, so we've included the most common and pressing dealbreakers below. We'll also walk through some "green flags" (or, signs that someone will satisfy your non negotiable); plus effective tips on how to compromise on things that don't make the cut. Let's get started!
Things You Should Know
- Non negotiables are things in a relationship that you can't compromise on. Typically, they're things that you know you absolutely need in a partner.
- Maybe your non negotiable is about the other person's personality: humor, open-mindedness, or independence might be important.
- On the other hand, values might matter more to you. For example, you might need someone to share your political beliefs or religious leanings.
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