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You’re excited to be dating someone new, but you’re not sure if you’re texting them enough (or too much) at the beginning of your relationship. When you’re chatting with your new boo, it’s important to send enough messages to keep them interested but not so many that you overwhelm them. While every couple is different, there are a few basic rules for texting you can follow. Keep reading to learn how often to text someone you just started dating plus how to tell if you and your partner have healthy texting habits.
Texting Rules for the Early Stages of Dating
Text two or three times a week if you’re keeping it casual. If you’ve only gone on a couple of dates so far, it might seem like you’re coming on too strong if you text every day. Try to check in when your partner isn’t busy, like in the evenings or on the weekends since they’ll probably reply sooner.
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- QuestionHow can I communicate effectively with my partner?Judith Gottesman, MSWJudith Gottesman is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Soul Mates Unlimited™️ Date Coaching and Matchmaking. With more than 20 years of experience, she specializes in using psychology, attention to detail, and her intuition to create lasting matches. She is known as The West Coast Jewish Community’s Matchmaker, but her dating advice works for everyone. Her work has been featured in numerous national media outlets, such as The New York Times, NPR, and Fox News. Judith is also an author of two books, Your Soul Mate Awaits! and The Lost Art of Dating. She holds a BA in Psychology from The University of California, Berkeley and an MA in Social Work from Yeshiva University.
Matchmaker & Dating CoachFind things you have in common and use them to connect with your partner. Do not talk too much about yourself. Instead, ask the person questions about them. - QuestionHow do you turn down someone on text?Judith Gottesman, MSWJudith Gottesman is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Soul Mates Unlimited™️ Date Coaching and Matchmaking. With more than 20 years of experience, she specializes in using psychology, attention to detail, and her intuition to create lasting matches. She is known as The West Coast Jewish Community’s Matchmaker, but her dating advice works for everyone. Her work has been featured in numerous national media outlets, such as The New York Times, NPR, and Fox News. Judith is also an author of two books, Your Soul Mate Awaits! and The Lost Art of Dating. She holds a BA in Psychology from The University of California, Berkeley and an MA in Social Work from Yeshiva University.
Matchmaker & Dating CoachIt is better not to mislead someone into thinking that you are interested or open to them when you are not. If you want to turn down someone, you can say, it was nice texting with you, talking with you, you seem like a nice person, but I do not think we are a match.
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- ↑ https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2015/10/01/teens-technology-and-romantic-relationships/
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/texting-dos-and-donts-in-relationships/
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/texting-dos-and-donts-in-relationships/
- ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
- ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/texting-dos-and-donts-in-relationships/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/me-we/201909/the-do-s-and-don-ts-texting-in-new-relationship
- ↑ https://www.sweetyhigh.com/read/not-interested-too-many-texts-050819
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/me-we/201909/the-do-s-and-don-ts-texting-in-new-relationship
- ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
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