Judith Gottesman, MSW

Matchmaker & Dating Coach

Judith Gottesman is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Soul Mates Unlimited™️ Date Coaching and Matchmaking. With more than 20 years of experience, she specializes in using psychology, attention to detail, and her intuition to create lasting matches. She is known as The West Coast Jewish Community’s Matchmaker, but her dating advice works for everyone. Her work has been featured in numerous national media outlets, such as The New York Times, NPR, and Fox News. Judith is also an author of two books, Your Soul Mate Awaits! and The Lost Art of Dating. She holds a BA in Psychology from The University of California, Berkeley and an MA in Social Work from Yeshiva University.

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Co-authored Articles (18)

150+ Things to Talk About With Your Crush: Deep, Flirty, & Funny Topics

Initiate a killer conversation with these creative conversation starters Are you looking for the perfect opening line to talk to your crush and spark a lively discussion? Asking fun and flirty questions is a great way to...

How Often Should You Text Someone You Just Started Dating?

You’re excited to be dating someone new, but you’re not sure if you’re texting them enough (or too much) at the beginning of your relationship. When you’re chatting with your new boo, it’s important to send eno...

12 Ways to Impress a Guy on a Date

If you have a big date coming up, you probably want to knock your man's socks off, right? You've come to the right place! We've put together this simple list of tips and tricks to help you do just that. Read on for great...

Do You Feel Like Your Boyfriend Hates You? Signs, Reasons, and Ways to Move Forward When Your Boyfriend Doesn't Like You

Has your relationship taken a turn for the worse? If you have the sinking feeling that your boyfriend hates you, we’re here to help. Read on to learn signs that really hates you, why we might be feeling that way, and w...

What to Talk About on the Third Date: 11 Tips to Spark Connection

So you’ve enjoyed spending time with a potential special someone during your first two dates, but what’s left to talk about on the third? Plenty, as it turns out. The third date is a chance to get past the initial ge...

The Best Texts to Kickstart a Flirty Conversation

Sweet, cute, and silly messages to get your crush or Tinder match wanting moreSo, you’ve met someone pretty awesome and can’t stop thinking about them—you’re crushing hard! But how can you start a flirty conversa...

How to End a Fling over Text (12 Examples & Tips to Break Up the Polite Way)

Friends with benefits and casual hook-ups can be a ton of fun, but there might come a time where your feelings change. Even though there’s less stress ending a fling than a long-term relationship, you can still be res...

How to

Get Any Guy You Want

When you’re trying to attract a guy, it can sometimes feel like a puzzle that’s impossible to solve. However, it doesn’t have to be hard! Getting any guy you want is easy when you know how to do it. Keep reading to...

How to

Make a Boy Blush

Blushing occurs in the context of social interactions in response to self-conscious emotions, such as embarrassment, shyness, or being around members of the opposite sex. However, while blushing can be due to undesired s...

How to Politely Cancel Plans over Text

We all know the feeling: you made plans with a friend, but now that it’s almost time to leave the house, you just don’t have the energy. Or, maybe something else came up, and you actually can’t make it. Whatever th...

How to

Make Small Talk

Small talk is a great way to break the ice when you’re talking to someone you don’t know well. Being able to make small talk will open you to new friendships and relationships, and it will also benefit you profession...

The Best Ways to Cancel a Date over Text (Without Being Rude)

So, you made plans for a date, but now you can’t (or don’t want to) make it. Don’t worry, we’ve all been there! With the right tone and a personalized message, you can let your date know that you can’t make it...

Starting a Weird Conversation: Funny, Creative, & Thought-Provoking Openers

The weirdest, wackiest lines to defuse an awkward situation (or intensify it) Don’t know what to say in a tense situation? Break the ice with a weird conversation starter! Whether you want to create a memorable impress...

How to

Approach a Guy at School

If there’s a guy at school you just can’t stop thinking about, you might have a little crush. Daydreaming about him is one thing, but actually approaching him can seem kind of daunting (especially if you don’t know...

95 Ideas to Spark a Conversation Between You and a Teenager

Thought-provoking questions to bond with the teen in your lifeBeing the parent, guardian, or teacher of a teenager can be challenging; as they get older, it's common to feel like you're speaking different languages. Havi...

How to

Not Be Awkward Around Your Boyfriend at School

In the movies, couples always seem to know what to say and how to act. It can be a lot different in real life, especially when you're trying to navigate a relationship in school. If you're feeling a little awkward around...

How to

Act on a Date (for Girls)

If you want to make a good impression on a date, be polite and friendly. Engage in enjoyable conversation and try to keep the mood light and fun. Ask questions, tell funny stories, and offer your date compliments that wi...

How to

Text a Girl on Valentine's Day

Do you want to make a girl feel extra special this Valentine’s Day? When you want to let your crush or girlfriend know you’re thinking of her, a quick text can be a cute way to show it. If you’re having a little tr...