This article was co-authored by Amy Chan and by How.com.vn staff writer, Annabelle Reyes. Amy Chan is a Relationship Coach based in New York, New York. She is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. She has over 12 years of experience helping clients work on their relationships with strategies rooted in the psychology and science of relationships and personal development. Her team of psychologists and coaches at Renew Breakup Bootcamp has helped hundreds of individuals in just 7 years of operation, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. Her book based on her work, Breakup Bootcamp, was published in 2020 and was featured by the New York Times.
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Breakups are always difficult, but they can be especially tough if it seems like your ex is doing just fine while you’re still suffering. If you’re in this situation, you may be wondering how to handle your feelings and start moving forward. Luckily there are many steps you can take to heal after a breakup and stop caring about how your ex is doing, and we’ll cover them all. We’ll also go over the possible reasons your ex seems unaffected by the split. Keep reading for everything you need to know.
Things You Should Know
- If your ex seems fine after your break up, try to accept that they’re doing well, and shift your focus toward yourself.
- Practice self-care, connect with loved ones, and give yourself time and space to process your emotions.
- It’s impossible to know exactly why your ex seems unaffected by the breakup, but it may have to do with their emotional intelligence level or attachment style.
Steps
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About This Article
It can be difficult if your ex seems fine after your breakup, but by focusing on your own life, you can start to move on. Keep in mind that you don’t really know if your ex is feeling fine or just pretending, and that’s okay. Try to get some space from them and avoid contacting them so you can concentrate on yourself. Spend your time on the hobbies and interests you enjoy to take your mind off any negative feelings. You can also use your extra free time to hang out with friends and family. If you feel down about your breakup, try writing your feelings down in a journal or talking to someone you trust about it. Getting them out of your head can often help you feel better. For more tips from our Relationship co-author, including how to talk to your ex if you bump into them, read on.
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