This article was co-authored by Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST and by How.com.vn staff writer, Hannah Madden. Josh Spurlock is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the Founder and CEO of MyCounselor.Online. With more than 15 years of experience, he specializes in marriage counseling, family counseling, and sex therapy through a Christian counseling lens. Josh holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Biblical Languages, Literatures, and Linguistics and a Master’s in Counseling Psychology from Evangel University.
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Experiencing a lack of intimacy is hard, but figuring out how to bring it up can be even harder. If you and your wife are going through a period of little to no sex, just know that you aren’t alone. Tons of married couples experience a mismatch of libidos from time to time, and the majority of them make it through just fine. Read through these steps to learn how you can bring up your intimacy issues and have an open and honest conversation with your wife.
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- QuestionHow do you deal with desire discrepancy?Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CSTJosh Spurlock is a Licensed Professional Counselor and the Founder and CEO of MyCounselor.Online. With more than 15 years of experience, he specializes in marriage counseling, family counseling, and sex therapy through a Christian counseling lens. Josh holds a Bachelor’s Degree in Biblical Languages, Literatures, and Linguistics and a Master’s in Counseling Psychology from Evangel University.
Licensed Professional CounselorRecognize that desire discrepancy is completely normal! It's extremely common for spouses to have different levels of desire; in fact, it's very uncommon for two people to be on the exact same page.
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- ↑ Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
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- ↑ Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
- ↑ Jacqueline Hellyer. Licensed Psychosexual Therapist. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201101/the-art-solving-relationship-problems
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- ↑ Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
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- ↑ Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pieces-mind/201204/understanding-validation-way-communicate-acceptance
- ↑ Jacqueline Hellyer. Licensed Psychosexual Therapist. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201302/stop-the-blame-game-in-your-relationship
- ↑ Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
- ↑ Jacqueline Hellyer. Licensed Psychosexual Therapist. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-busting/201001/9-tips-the-partner-higher-sex-drive
- ↑ https://ideas.ted.com/the-secrets-to-sustaining-a-strong-sexual-connection-over-the-long-haul/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/sex-talk/2018/06/tips-for-couples-with-mismatched-libido#1
- ↑ https://www.aarp.org/home-family/sex-intimacy/info-06-2012/steps-to-resolve-sexual-desire-differences.html
- ↑ Josh Spurlock, MA, LPC, CST. Licensed Professional Counselor. Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.
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