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Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that makes you feel like you’re going crazy—as if your thoughts, feelings, and observations are wrong. Though it can be overt, gaslighting is often subtle and hard to detect. Worried that’s it happening to you? We’ve put together a list of subtle signs of gaslighting. Keep reading to learn how to recognize these signs, and how to respond to them so that you can protect yourself and push back.
Things You Should Know
- Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse designed to make you feel “crazy,” as if you don’t understand what’s happening around you.
- A person who gaslights you will also try to make you feel like your thoughts, feelings, and observations are always wrong.
- Subtle gaslighting can be hard to detect. However, one major sign of gaslighting is when someone’s actions never match their words.
- Respond to gaslighting by affirming your point of view and self-worth. If a person won’t stop gaslighting, it may be difficult to have a healthy relationship with them.
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- QuestionHow do you turn the tables on a gaslighter?Alexandra JanelliAlexandra Janelli is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Anxiety & Stress Management Coach, and owner and founder of Modrn Sanctuary, a holistic health and wellness facility in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. With over 10 years of experience, Alexandra specializes in helping clients push through their roadblocks to achieve their goals using her hypnotherapeutic approach. Alexandra holds a BS from the University of Miami. She graduated from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute with an Advanced Training Graduate Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Handwriting Analysis. Alexandra is also a Certified Life Coach from the iPEC Coach Training Program. She has worked with Academy Award Nominee Actors, world-renowned photographers, singers, top-level executives, and professionals across many sectors of business. Alexandra has been featured on MTV, Elle Magazine, Oprah Magazine, Men's Fitness, Swell City Guide, Dossier Journal, The New Yorker, and Time Out Chicago.
Anxiety and Stress Management CoachGive yourself permission to really push the pause button and come back to the logical voice in your mind. In an emotional situation, it's very easy to become suggestible to someone, so it's important to take a step back emotionally to look at what's going on. Ask yourself if you really believe what the gaslighter is saying to be true—from there, you can figure out how to approach the situation. - QuestionHow can you deal with a gaslighting teenager?Alexandra JanelliAlexandra Janelli is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Anxiety & Stress Management Coach, and owner and founder of Modrn Sanctuary, a holistic health and wellness facility in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. With over 10 years of experience, Alexandra specializes in helping clients push through their roadblocks to achieve their goals using her hypnotherapeutic approach. Alexandra holds a BS from the University of Miami. She graduated from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute with an Advanced Training Graduate Diploma in Hypnotherapy and Handwriting Analysis. Alexandra is also a Certified Life Coach from the iPEC Coach Training Program. She has worked with Academy Award Nominee Actors, world-renowned photographers, singers, top-level executives, and professionals across many sectors of business. Alexandra has been featured on MTV, Elle Magazine, Oprah Magazine, Men's Fitness, Swell City Guide, Dossier Journal, The New Yorker, and Time Out Chicago.
Anxiety and Stress Management CoachReally listen between the lines of what they're trying to get from you. What is that they're trying to do to you, and why is that important? What is it that they need, and how can you address that? For instance, if the teen needs you to doubt yourself so that feel better, you could see if there's a way to make them feel better. Above all, it's important to understand your desired outcome with the gaslighter and what keeps you in that relationship to begin with.
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