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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/learning-to-let-go-of-past-hurts-5-ways-to-move-on
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/do-looks-matter-in-a-relationship#do-looks-matter
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9761-avoidant-personality-disorder
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/love-matters/2018/07/18-ways-to-increase-intimacy-and-communication-with-an-avoidant-partner#1
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/love-matters/2018/07/16-signs-of-an-avoidant-or-unavailable-partner#1
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm
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