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Want to wrap a man around your finger and have him begging for more? Mastering the art of seduction doesn’t have to be rocket science, and anybody can learn to get a guy going with a little bit of confidence. In this article, we’ll walk you through the arts of attraction so that you can draw in the guy of your dreams and get him to keep his eyes on you and only you.
Things You Should Know
- Guys love it when their partner takes charge, so don’t hesitate to tell him what you want—either sexually or when you’re just hanging out.
- Lean in when you kiss him, use your hands, and gently explore his mouth with your tongue to really take your kissing game to the next level.
- Variety is the spice of life, so try roleplaying, sending an occasional dirty text, or experimenting in the bedroom.
- Be yourself. There’s no need to pretend to be something you’re not—especially if the guy has already expressed interest in you.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionHow do I make him feel important?Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFTAlysha Jeney is a Licensed Relationship Therapist, the Owner of Modern Love Counseling, and the Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box. She specializes in relationship therapy, intimacy building, and existential exploration. Alysha holds a BA in Psychology from The Metropolitan State University of Denver and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Regis University. She has been featured in publications such as The Washington Post and The Huffington Post.
Licensed Relationship TherapistAsk him plenty of questions about his life, hobbies, interests, family, and job. Understand why he likes what he likes, and try your best to appreciate his unique interests. - QuestionHow do I turn on my boyfriend?Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFTAlysha Jeney is a Licensed Relationship Therapist, the Owner of Modern Love Counseling, and the Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box. She specializes in relationship therapy, intimacy building, and existential exploration. Alysha holds a BA in Psychology from The Metropolitan State University of Denver and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Regis University. She has been featured in publications such as The Washington Post and The Huffington Post.
Licensed Relationship TherapistTry having an open, honest conversation about his needs. Believe it or not, you can turn guys just by making an effort to understand their needs and wants. - QuestionIs it okay to have sex with my ex if he isn't in love with me anymore but I am still in love with him?Community AnswerThe truth is, someday it will hurt you. If he stops having sex with you when he finds someone else, you will be heartbroken. You're a booty call. It's all up to you, but try to stop what you're doing before you get your feelings hurt.
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201402/how-flirt-and-be-attractive
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201111/why-we-kiss-and-how-do-it-right
- ↑ https://swirlster.ndtv.com/wellness-mother/want-more-from-your-sex-life-it-is-time-to-get-creative-1784212
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201706/11-major-flirting-techniques-women
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/four-easy-ways-to-turn-a-guy-o
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201111/why-we-kiss-and-how-do-it-right
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201305/how-get-guys-or-gals-attention
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/four-easy-ways-to-turn-a-guy-o
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/four-easy-ways-to-turn-a-guy-o
- ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a5143/tips-on-role-playing-first-time/
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/make-a-man-feel-needed/
- ↑ https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/how-to-give-a-sensual-massage-to-your-partner-that-they-will-never-forget/photostory/64709649.cms
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4413730/
About This Article
To turn a guy on, hold his gaze for a few seconds to let him know that you want him. Draw attention to your lips by occasionally licking them or applying lip balm. Don’t be afraid to show a little skin to entice him and leave him wanting more. When you get talking, speak in a soft voice so the guy has to lean in close to hear you. Most of all, be confident in your actions, since there’s nothing sexier than someone who knows what they want and aren’t afraid to show it. For more tips, including how to turn a guy on by mixing things up in the bedroom, read on!
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