This article was co-authored by Elvina Lui, MFT and by How.com.vn staff writer, Hannah Madden. Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.
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When you first started dating your boyfriend, he probably treated you like royalty. After some time, though, it can start to feel like he doesn’t appreciate you as much as he used to. Maybe he ignores you more than he used to, or maybe he's taking you for granted, even though he doesn't mean to. In this article, we’ve detailed some ways that you can get your boyfriend’s attention again, along with a few ways you can strengthen your relationship as a couple.
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- QuestionHow do I keep my boyfriend interested in me?Elvina Lui, MFTElvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz. She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.
Marriage & Family TherapistThe wording of this question is concerning because it implies that a boyfriend should lose interest, which in turn implies that the attraction was based on shallow qualities. My advice is to build the relationship from a deeper place. I am not discounting the value of physical attraction, because physical attraction is definitely an important part of the picture, I am merely telling you to make sure you are also bonded in other meaningful ways. For some people, their partner is the only person in the world who knows their story, think about how special that is and how unreplaceable you are to your partner. Another lasting bond would be working towards a common dream. As you two grew closer and learned of each other's dreams, the more you two integrate your efforts and direction, the stronger your bond will become.
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- ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a44479/signs-your-boyfriend-is-taking-you-for-granted/
- ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a44479/signs-your-boyfriend-is-taking-you-for-granted/
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. Thursday, September 30, 2021.
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. Thursday, September 30, 2021.
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. Thursday, September 30, 2021.
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. Thursday, September 30, 2021.
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. Thursday, September 30, 2021.
- ↑ Elvina Lui, MFT. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/feeling-unsatisfied-your-relationship/my-partner-taking-me-granted
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/feeling-unsatisfied-your-relationship/my-partner-taking-me-granted
- ↑ https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-relationships/feeling-unsatisfied-your-relationship/my-partner-taking-me-granted
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/202012/20-signs-relationship-is-over
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