This article was co-authored by Michelle Shahbazyan, MS, MA and by How.com.vn staff writer, Christopher M. Osborne, PhD. Michelle Shahbazyan is the Founder of The LA Life Coach, a concierge life, family, and career coaching service based in Los Angeles, California. She has over 10 years of experience with life coaching, consulting, motivational speaking, and matchmaking. She has a BA in Applied Psychology and an MS in Building Construction and Technology Management from Georgia Tech University, and a MA in Psychology with an emphasis on Marriage and Family Therapy from Phillips Graduate University.
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It really hurts when you don’t get the love and affection that you crave from your family. Fortunately, in many cases, things can be repaired if everyone works together. This article covers ways to communicate your feelings, strategies for self-improvement, and ideas for spending more time together with your family.
Here are 14 steps you can take to find the love that you deserve.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionHow can I relate to other family members?Michelle Shahbazyan, MS, MAMichelle Shahbazyan is the Founder of The LA Life Coach, a concierge life, family, and career coaching service based in Los Angeles, California. She has over 10 years of experience with life coaching, consulting, motivational speaking, and matchmaking. She has a BA in Applied Psychology and an MS in Building Construction and Technology Management from Georgia Tech University, and a MA in Psychology with an emphasis on Marriage and Family Therapy from Phillips Graduate University.
Family CoachJust try to be your best self and listen to your family members so you can grow closer to them. - QuestionHow do I get my family to respect me again?Community AnswerYou need to prove to them that you are worth their respect. Help them out even when they don't ask for help and be with them. Also be patient. Don't expect respect straight away, as you need to earn it.
- QuestionIs it okay that when someone asks for help, I help them, but when I need help or need to tell them something they ignore me?Community AnswerNo, that's not okay. Talk to your family about how you're feeling and how they aren't there for you when you need them. Make sure the conversation is calm and reasonable, and provide examples of what you're talking about. If the situation continues, consider family therapy, and try to make some close friends that you can rely on when your family is not helpful.
Tips
Warnings
- Don’t sacrifice who you are or risk your wellbeing in an effort to be loved by your family. Some family situations are simply too dysfunctional and beyond repair. If your family is unable or unwilling to love you, build a surrogate family out of loving friends who truly care for you.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5961625/
- ↑ https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/communication-challenges-with-family-and-friends/
- ↑ https://www.gottman.com/blog/weekend-homework-assignment-accepting-responsibility/
- ↑ https://ideas.ted.com/the-right-way-to-be-introspective-yes-theres-a-wrong-way/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202006/7-signs-family-thats-turned-toxic
- ↑ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/respect/
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2018/01/17/15-easy-ways-to-become-a-more-helpful-person/?sh=67b40244421a
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-ways-to-become-more-independent-less-codependent#1
- ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/love/family-love-what-it-is-what-it-looks-like-and-how-to-make-it-happen/
- ↑ https://www.parentingni.org/blog/time-together-importance/
- ↑ Michelle Shahbazyan, MS, MA. Life Coach. Expert Interview. 18 March 2020.
- ↑ https://child.unl.edu/documents/313877/418719/365%20Ways%20to%20Spend%20Time%20with%20Your%20Family.pdf/365-Ways-to-Spend-Time-with-Your-Family.pdf
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201409/5-ways-know-youre-confiding-in-the-right-person
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