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Are you concerned about an anxious attachment style and how it might impact your relationships? As opposed to a secure attachment style, an anxious attachment style is usually the result of childhood or relationship trauma—it often triggers you to seek continual reinforcement and reassurance from your partner. Here, we’ll teach you the practice of self-soothing whenever you feel uncomfortable or uncertain. Read our expert-backed advice to give yourself relief and move closer to a wonderful, thriving, stable connection.
This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach, John Keegan, founder of The Awakened Lifestyle. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- Journal about your emotions to reflect on what concerns you instead of anxiously reacting to the absence of your partner.
- Practice positive reframing to calm yourself down. For example, if your partner is out a lot, celebrate that they have an active social life.
- Focus on your physical and emotional health to avoid becoming dependent on your significant other. Exercise, sleep well, and pursue your own hobbies.
- If you didn't receive affirmation when you grew up, you might feel that you need a lot of approval from your current partner.
Steps
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-empowerment-diary/202002/what-is-centering-what-is-grounding
- ↑ https://www.anxiety.org/can-mindfulness-help-reduce-anxiety
- ↑ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886912004886
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/affirmations-for-anxiety
- ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/anxiety/ridding-yourself-of-attachment-anxiety/
- ↑ http://www.sightonstress.com/sleep-and-attachment-style/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/attachment-and-adult-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/23040-endorphins
- ↑ https://therapytothrive.com/2018/05/23/5-ways-to-help-anxious-attachment-and-love-more-securely/
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