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Cheating on your partner is perhaps the greatest betrayal you can commit in a relationship. After being cheated on, you’re likely to experience pain, anger—and maybe confusion: why did it happen? What was he thinking? There are lots of reasons a man might have for cheating—and none of them are good enough. Still, if you’re curious about the psychology of a man who cheats, keep reading: we’ve created a list of the many things a guy might be thinking when he commits infidelity.
Things You Should Know
- A man who cheats may be struggling with an inferiority complex or a crisis of identity. He may feel unlovable and believe this is an “excuse” to have an affair.
- He may rationalize his affair by blaming his partner: they “forced” him to do it, or perhaps he wanted revenge on them for something they did to hurt him.
- He may not be thinking. He may be intoxicated—or he and his partner may have different definitions of “infidelity” that they haven't communicated.
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