How to Kiss Someone With Piercings

Piercings are a form a body modification that has been practiced all over the world for thousands of years.^{[1]XResearch source} A piercing can be a personal statement, have cultural significance, or be used to enhance sexual pleasure. While kissing with piercings is similar to kissing without them, there are a couple of things that you should keep in mind. By following some basic guidelines, you can ensure that the kiss is enjoyable for both you and your partner.

How to Kiss with a Tongue or Lip Piercing

Avoid knocking your piercing into your partner’s teeth and be cautious not to tangle your piercings if they have one, too. Be communicative and tell your partner what feels good and what feels uncomfortable or painful, especially if your piercing is new.

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Kissing a Person With a Piercing

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Gently kiss around the piercing. While it may be tempting to kiss your partner roughly, this is a bad idea if they have a piercing. Make sure to be gentle around the area that's pierced because you could hurt them. Gently kiss the person around the piercing at first and test their level of comfort before kissing them more aggressively.
- New piercings are especially sensitive.^{[2]XResearch source}
- If a piercing is new, tugging or excessive movement could make it more prone to infection.^{[3]XTrustworthy SourceMayo ClinicEducational website from one of the world's leading hospitalsGo to source}
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Communicate with the person you're kissing. Everyone is different, and some people are more sensitive than others around their piercing. Talk with the person that you are kissing and ask them if it hurts or if it's uncomfortable. If you can see the visible discomfort in their face, stop kissing altogether or be much more gentle.
- People that have had piercings for a long time may feel no pain when you tug, and may actually find it to be sensual.
- You can say something like "Hey, does this hurt? Do you want me to kiss you softer?"
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Get creative with kissing. While having a piercing means that you have to think of additional factors, it also opens the door to a world of new possibilities. Tongue piercings, for example, are said to enhance sexual pleasure.^{[4]XResearch source} Think of new and fun ways to explore kissing with your piercing.
- Studs can create a pleasurable sensation when they make contact with skin.

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Kissing Someone When You Have a Piericing

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When you kiss someone, and you have a tongue piercing, snakebites, or a lip ring, it's important to be mindful of the other person's teeth. Piercings can chip teeth and cause oral damage for the other person. Be gentle when you are kissing someone and you have a piercing.^{[5]XResearch source}
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Talk to your partner about your comfort level. Sensitivity levels with new piercings vary. If your partner is doing something that hurts you or that you find uncomfortable, have an honest conversation about kissing and tell them that they should be more gentle.
- You can say something like "I like kissing you, but my piercing is painful when you pull on it. Can you please be more gentle?"
If you both have piercings, then it's important to be extra careful. Rings are more susceptible than studs to become interlocked.^{[6]XResearch source} If you're able to, avoid hitting your piercings together to reduce the chance of them getting caught.

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Avoiding Infection with a Piercing

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Wait for the piercing to heal before kissing. If you kiss someone with a fresh piercing, you are introducing foreign bacteria into their body that could result in an infection. Wait until the piercing heals before even considering it.
- Tongue piercings take 3 to 6 weeks to heal fully but vary from person to person.^{[7]XResearch source}
- A lip piercing typically takes anywhere from 6 to 8 weeks to fully heal.^{[8]XResearch source}
- Labret and Monroe piercings take 2 to 6 months to heal fully.
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Wash your mouth out with antiseptic after kissing. Use an antiseptic mouthwash like an alcohol free Listerine product or saline solution (do not use biotene, or and strong cleaners like rubbing alcohol) if you can't help but kiss someone. However, it's also important to note that you should stay away from overuse of mouthwash because it could result in an oral yeast infection.^{[9]XResearch source}
- If your tongue or mouth begins to turn white, keep mouthwash usage to a minimum.^{[10]XResearch source}
- You can ask your partner also to use an antiseptic mouthwash before kissing you to reduce the chance of infection.
If your piercing becomes dislodged or tears because of rough kissing, then visit a doctor to avoid infection. Often the piercing will have to be removed and then re-pierced once it's fully healed. Effectively caring for a torn piercing will reduce the chances of more severe infections or complications in the future.