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You make a cute couple, but there's a noticeable height difference between you when you're standing! This can make kissing a bit challenging sometimes, but there are some easy ways to even out your height difference, such as by wearing height-enhancing footwear, using a stair or piece of furniture, or simply meeting each other halfway. Once you've mastered ways to kiss, you might try out a few creative kissing positions and techniques.
Steps
Bend down slightly to meet your partner's lips if you're taller than them. An easy way to even out the height difference is for the taller partner to bend down while the shorter person angles their face up towards them.- If you do this and you're the taller partner, support the back of your partner's head to make sure their neck doesn't start aching. Looking up at someone for a long period of time can be uncomfortable.
Stand on your tiptoes if you're the shorter one. If you're just a little shorter than your partner, standing on your tiptoes could be enough to reach their lips. If there's a big height difference between you and you're shorter than your partner, you might also need to stand on your tiptoes while your partner bends to meet your lips.Advertisement
Use your surroundings to even out the height difference. Look for something in your environment that can help you and your partner get closer together. This could be a fixture of the building or street, such as a staircase or a ledge, or it could be a piece of furniture, such as a barstool or footstool.- For example, you could stand on a ledge, stool, or stair to get some extra height if you're shorter.
- If you're taller, step down to a lower stair or off the curb.
Wear shoes with heels or lifts if you're shorter than your partner. If you're the shorter person, then you might consider wearing shoes with heels or getting some height-enhancing insoles to even out the difference. You can wear high heels, boots with heels, wedges, or even sneakers with heels. You can also purchase “lifts” which are height-enhancing insoles that go inside of your shoes.[1]- Celebrities often wear lifts to make themselves look taller.
Sit on a chair together so it's easier to kiss. Another option is to find a sofa or chair, have the taller person sit down, and then sit on their lap if you're shorter than them. It will be easier to kiss if you're both sitting in a chair together.- Make sure that the furniture you sit on is sturdy enough to support both of you. Breaking a chair or falling out of it might not be the most romantic scenario.
Tip: Laying next to your partner will also even out the height difference, but it's okay if you're not comfortable doing this yet.
Dip the person back and hold them while you kiss if they're shorter. For an ultra-sexy kiss that is easy to achieve, the taller partner can dip the shorter partner back so that they're almost parallel to the ground and support them with their arms while kissing them. Be careful not to strain your back when you do this. Brace your core muscles and use your legs to support your weight.- If you're the taller partner, hold your partner around their waist and back to support them.
- If you're the shorter partner, wrap your arms around the person's neck for extra support.
Jump into their arms if you're shorter and they can support you. If you're short and your partner is strong enough, jump into their arms so that your faces are level, or wrap your legs around your partner's waist and kiss them from above. Make sure to warn your partner before you try to jump into their arms if you're shorter than them!- If you're the taller partner, you could also try spinning the other person around as an extra romantic way to kiss them.
Kiss them somewhere else when you want to show affection. You don't always need to kiss the person on the lips or even on their face to show affection. If you're short than your partner, try kissing them on the hand or shoulder. If you're taller than them, you could plant a kiss on the top of their head or bring their hand up to your mouth and plant a kiss on it.[2]Tip: Try creating your own special way of showing affection that you and your partner can share when you can't kiss, such as squeezing your partner's hands in a special way.
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Suzanna MathewsSuzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.
Dating & Relationship CoachShow all the other awesome and amazing characteristics that you bring to the table. Downplay height and show that you bring something else that makes up for that. For example, you go to the gym and look after your health, you dress well, you cultivate awareness of yourself, have a good personality, good conversation skills, and good social skills. - QuestionWhat if your a boy and you’re 5 inches shorter? Is it sexy for her to pick me up? Is it sexy for me to sit in their lap?
Community AnswerWhatever you and your partner enjoy is fine! Don't worry what other people think. - QuestionWhat if the female is taller than the male? How do you make that less awkward?
Community AnswerThere's nothing wrong with a girl being taller than the guy she's dating. Look for ways to even out the height difference, such as sitting down or having the shorter person stand on a ledge or stair.
Tips
- If your partner is taller than you and wearing a jacket with strings, tug on them playfully to pull them down to you.Thanks
- If you're taller, slightly hold her chin and lift up to bring her face closer.Thanks
Tips from our Readers 
- If you're in a public area, especially in a family-oriented place, try to keep the kissing to a minimum as things can get awkward. Play it smooth in a less packed environment.
- If you're shorter, lean against your partner's belly and put your arm around their waist. Look up into their eyes and say "I love you," and they might initiate the kiss.
- If you're at home, jump on a counter and leave your legs spread open so your partner can stand between your legs and kiss you.
- Use a staircase and stand about 2 or 3 steps above your partner so you're at the same height.
Warnings
- If you are lifting somebody, lift them safely. Lift with your legs and not your back.Thanks
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Kissing someone who’s taller or shorter than you can be a little tricky, but there are lots of ways to handle the height difference. For instance, if you’re the taller one, bend down slightly to meet your partner’s lips. If you’re the shorter one, stand on your tiptoes to help close the distance between you. Another option is to have the shorter person stand on something, like a step, while you lock lips. Sitting down together while you kiss can also even out height differences. Look for ways to get creative and have fun with your difference in size. For instance, if you’re taller, try dipping your partner or picking them up while you kiss them. You don’t have to stick to kissing on the lips, either. If you’re shorter, try kissing your partner’s hand or shoulder. If you’re taller, bend down and give your sweetheart a romantic kiss on the forehead.
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