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If you have a friend, family member, or romantic partner who's going through a difficult or traumatic time, provide them with emotional support so they feel more connected and less alone. The type of emotional support you give them will likely depend on your relationship and the particular situation they're going through. But the important part is that you show them that you're there for them and they can count on you. This support alone can help ease their stress during a troubling time.[1] Read on to find out exactly what you should do to give someone the emotional support they need.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionHow do I ask for emotional support?Lauren Urban, LCSWLauren Urban is a licensed psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York, with over 13 years of therapy experience working with children, families, couples, and individuals. She received her Masters in Social Work from Hunter College in 2006, and specializes in working with the LGBTQIA community and with clients in recovery or considering recovery for drug and alcohol use.
Licensed PsychotherapistJust be open and honest about what you're feeling and what kind of support you need. If you choose to open up to someone who is understanding and loving, they'll be empathetic. - QuestionHow do I validate someone when I disagree?Lauren Urban, LCSWLauren Urban is a licensed psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York, with over 13 years of therapy experience working with children, families, couples, and individuals. She received her Masters in Social Work from Hunter College in 2006, and specializes in working with the LGBTQIA community and with clients in recovery or considering recovery for drug and alcohol use.
Licensed PsychotherapistYou don't have to agree with what someone is saying to be empathetic toward them. Just listen to what they have to say and tell them you're there to support them. Acknowledge how they feel and keep your opinions to yourself for the time being.
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Tips
- It's okay to go with your gut feeling about a situation. But if the person corrects you, accept that correction and move on. They'll feel supported if they believe that you accept their perspective on the matter unconditionally.[17]Thanks
- Don't forget to take time for yourself while you're emotionally supporting someone else—especially if they're dealing with a long-term ordeal. It's easy to get drained while you're caring for someone, but self-care will help.[18]Thanks
- Unless the situation is dangerous, avoid giving the person advice unless they ask for it specifically.Thanks
Warnings
- Avoid minimizing the person's experience even if it doesn't seem like such a big deal to you, such as by saying something like "it could always be worse."Thanks
- If you're providing emotional support during a crisis situation, move to a safe place and make medical assistance a priority if necessary.Thanks
Expert Interview
Thanks for reading our article! If you’d like to learn more about emotional support, check out our in-depth interview with Michelle Joy, MA, MFT.
References
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2022/march-2022-survival-mode
- ↑ https://www.redcross.org.uk/stories/disasters-and-emergencies/uk/emotional-support-in-an-emergency
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202304/how-to-emotionally-support-someone
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stressing-communication/201906/formula-providing-emotional-support
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202304/how-to-emotionally-support-someone
- ↑ Michelle Joy, MA, MFT. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 26 June 2020.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stressing-communication/201906/formula-providing-emotional-support
- ↑ https://www.mentoring.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/BBM-Chapter-1.pdf
- ↑ Michelle Joy, MA, MFT. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 26 June 2020.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202304/how-to-emotionally-support-someone
- ↑ Lauren Urban, LCSW. Licensed Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 3 September 2018.
- ↑ Michelle Joy, MA, MFT. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 26 June 2020.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stressing-communication/201906/formula-providing-emotional-support
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stressing-communication/201906/formula-providing-emotional-support
- ↑ Ran D. Anbar, MD, FAAP. Pediatric Pulmonologist & Medical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 July 2020.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/click-here-for-happiness/202304/how-to-emotionally-support-someone
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-it/201210/reading-bodies-touching-minds-the-mystery-empathy
- ↑ Ran D. Anbar, MD, FAAP. Pediatric Pulmonologist & Medical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 July 2020.
About This Article
If you’re worried about saying the wrong thing to someone who needs emotional support, remember that you can help them through a tough time by actively listening and validating their emotions. As the person is speaking to you, give them your undivided attention and make eye contact so they know you’re listening. You can also ask them questions, like "How did that make you feel?" to reassure them you’re listening while keeping the conversation going. No matter what the person's going through, let them know that their feelings are normal. Instead of being critical, say something like “That’s a lot to deal with” or “That would make me angry too.” For more help from our co-author, like how to show your support through tangible actions, read on!
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