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Conversations are all about finding a balance of give and take—but what happens when you’re the only one giving? Not to worry—whether it’s a casual acquaintance or loved one, there are plenty of ways to get someone to open up. Here are a few conversational tips and tricks to help you get started!
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionShould you provoke someone to talk to you?Sarah Schewitz, PsyDSarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships.
Licensed PsychologistNo. Don't come onto the person too strongly or aggressively since it could give off a bad first impression. - QuestionWhat questions should I ask to help someone open up?Sarah Schewitz, PsyDSarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships.
Licensed PsychologistJust ask the person how they're doing and how they're feeling. Usually, people will open up and carry on the conversation.
Tips
- If you’re having a deep discussion with a friend or loved one, state what you’d like to get out of the conversation at the very beginning. This may help make the conversation a little more productive.[13]Thanks
Warnings
- Don’t nag or beg for someone to open up. Personal conversations and connections take time to develop.[14]Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating-advice-for-you/15-ways-to-get-a-closed-off-person-to-open-up/
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2013/07/25/get-people-to-open-up/
- ↑ https://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304451104577390392329291890
- ↑ Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview. 15 April 2019.
- ↑ https://theweek.com/articles/455043/how-make-people-like-6-sciencebased-conversation-hacks
- ↑ https://www.insider.com/how-to-get-a-shy-person-to-open-up-quickly-2016-8#4-explore-their-interests-4
- ↑ https://theweek.com/articles/455043/how-make-people-like-6-sciencebased-conversation-hacks
- ↑ https://theweek.com/articles/455043/how-make-people-like-6-sciencebased-conversation-hacks
- ↑ https://www.fastcompany.com/3023478/why-you-should-help-everybody-brag-about-themselves
- ↑ https://www.inc.com/magazine/20110401/competitive-intelligence-how-to-make-people-talk.html
- ↑ https://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating-advice-for-you/15-ways-to-get-a-closed-off-person-to-open-up/
- ↑ https://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating-advice-for-you/15-ways-to-get-a-closed-off-person-to-open-up/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201409/12-steps-getting-someone-open
- ↑ https://www.eharmony.com/dating-advice/dating-advice-for-you/15-ways-to-get-a-closed-off-person-to-open-up/
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