How to Develop Good Communication Skills

Having good communication skills is important. They can help you with presentations in class, during job interviews, when handling arguments, and in a variety of other situations. Fortunately, there are some tricks you can use to improve your communication skills so you come across as more confident and friendly.

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Communication is the process of transferring signals/messages between a sender and a receiver through various methods (written words, nonverbal cues, spoken words). It is also the mechanism we use to establish and modify relationships.
Be confident in knowing that you can make worthwhile contributions to conversation. Take time each day to be aware of your opinions and feelings so you can adequately convey them to others. Individuals who are hesitant to speak because they do not feel their input would be worthwhile need not fear. What is important or worthwhile to one person may not be to another and may be more so to someone else.
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Strengthen communication by adopting an explorer mindset. Adopt an "Explorer" mindset socially. Go out aiming to be curious about people and share about yourself. Have light interactions and make connections without expecting anything. This mentality encourages you to explore conversations in various settings, strengthening communication abilities.

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Make eye contact. Whether you are speaking or listening, looking into the eyes of the person with whom you are conversing can make the interaction more successful. Eye contact conveys interest and encourages your partner to be interested in you in return.^{[1]XResearch source}
- One technique to help with this is to consciously look into one of the listener’s eyes and then move to the other eye. Going back and forth between the two makes your eyes appear to sparkle. Another trick is to imagine a letter “T” on the listener’s face, with the crossbar being an imaginary line across the eye brows and the vertical line coming down the center of the nose. Keep your eyes scanning that “T” zone.
These include gestures with your hands and face. Make your whole body talk. Use smaller gestures for individuals and small groups. The gestures should get larger as the group that one is addressing increases in size.^{[2]XResearch source}
Make your words, gestures, facial expressions and tone match. Disciplining someone while smiling sends a mixed message and is therefore ineffective. If you have to deliver a negative message, make your words, facial expressions, and tone match the message.^{[3]XResearch source}
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Be aware of what your body is saying. Body language can say so much more than a mouthful of words. An open stance with arms relaxed at your sides tells anyone around you that you are approachable and open to hearing what they have to say.^{[4]XTrustworthy SourceHelpGuideNonprofit organization dedicated to providing free, evidence-based mental health and wellness resources.Go to source}
- Arms crossed and shoulders hunched, on the other hand, suggest disinterest in conversation or unwillingness to communicate. Often, communication can be stopped before it starts by body language that tells people you don't want to talk.^{[5]XResearch source}
- Appropriate posture and an approachable stance can make even difficult conversations flow more smoothly.
The attitudes you bring to communication will have a huge impact on the way you compose yourself and interact with others. Choose to be honest, patient, optimistic, sincere, respectful, and accepting of others. Be sensitive to other people's feelings, and believe in others' competence.
Develop effective listening skills: Not only should one be able to speak effectively, one must listen to the other person's words and engage in communication on what the other person is speaking about. Avoid the impulse to listen only for the end of their sentence so that you can blurt out the ideas or memories your mind while the other person is speaking.^{[6]XResearch source}

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Speak clearly and don’t mumble. If people are always asking you to repeat yourself, try to do a better job of articulating yourself in a better manner.
People will judge your competency through your vocabulary. If you aren’t sure of how to say a word, don’t use it. Improve your vocabulary by reading new words in daily routine. Look in the dictionary to help you learn how to pronounce a new word.
If you’re not sure of the meaning of a word, don’t use it. Grab a dictionary and start a daily habit of learning one new word per day. Use it sometime in your conversations during the day.
People will perceive you as nervous and unsure of yourself if you talk fast. However, be careful not to slow down to the point where people begin to finish your sentences just to help you finish.^{[7]XResearch source}
A high or whiny voice is not perceived to be one of authority. In fact, a high and soft voice can make you sound like prey to an aggressive co-worker or make others not take you seriously. Begin doing exercises to lower the pitch of your voice. Try singing, but do it an octave lower on all your favorite songs. Practice this and, after a period of time, your voice will begin to lower.
Avoid a monotone and use dynamics. Your pitch should raise and lower periodically. Radio DJ's are usually a good example of this.^{[8]XResearch source}
Use a volume that is appropriate for the setting. Speak more softly when you are alone and close. Speak louder when you are speaking to larger groups or across larger spaces.^{[9]XResearch source}

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Go out of your way to speak to people as frequently as possible, on whatever topic. Speak clearly and make eye contact. The more you practice, the easier it will become.
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To improve your body language, practice in front of a mirror.
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Do not interrupt or talk over the other person--it breaks the flow of conversation. Timing is important.
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Practice voice modulation techniques like those of radio announcers to incorporate engaging vocal inflection. Speaking monotonously can be boring.
Believe in your own ability to contribute meaningfully to any dialogue. Confidence, not volume, convinces others that your opinions have merit.
Speak a bit slower than feels natural to you so listeners can fully process without having to ask repetition. But avoid belabored paces.
When conversing, focus just above someone's shoulder if maintaining eye contact feels uncomfortable. This retains perceived connection.
Gesture only moderately with hands and expressions unless addressing very large gatherings. Excess motion distracts individual chats.
Ask questions when you're unclear on something someone said, rather than guessing what they meant. Try to avoid misunderstandings.

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