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If some time has passed and you keep wondering about what could have been, you may be thinking about trying to get back with your ex. The good news is that this is super common, and there are a ton of reasons that this may work. The bad news is that this isn’t always the best idea depending on how things ended between you two. Regardless, you’re in the right place to make an informed decision here! As a note, if you’re worried about whether this can lead to anything good or not, you should know that the data has your back; a relationship is statistically more likely to work out if you break up, spend some time apart, and then get back together![1]
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- QuestionShould I go on a date with my ex?Allen Wagner, MFT, MAAllen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates.
Marriage & Family TherapistTake some time to think things through first. Chances are, there was at least one core reason why you broke up to begin with. Make sure that your ex has definitely changed and grown, so you aren't walking into a repeat of your past relationship. - QuestionWhy do I keep wanting to go back to him?Allen Wagner, MFT, MAAllen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates.
Marriage & Family TherapistThink of it like this—people always seem to want to go back to Vegas, even if they end of up the red. In the end, they'll always focus on the good times they had, not the bad. The same logic applies to old relationships.
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- ↑ https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/old-flames-reunited-make-most-lasting-marriages-711097.html
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.inquirer.com/philly/blogs/sexwithtimaree/Rekindling-an-old-flame-When-is-it-OK-to-date-your-ex.html
- ↑ https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0265407520962849
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/old-flames-reunited-make-most-lasting-marriages-711097.html
- ↑ https://www.inquirer.com/philly/blogs/sexwithtimaree/Rekindling-an-old-flame-When-is-it-OK-to-date-your-ex.html
- ↑ https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0265407520962849
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://medium.com/thrive-global/how-you-can-get-your-ex-back-2940104080b0
- ↑ https://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/the-best-ways-to-get-her-back.html
- ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/04/why-exes-are-reconnecting-coronavirus-quarantine/610081/
- ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/04/why-exes-are-reconnecting-coronavirus-quarantine/610081/
- ↑ https://www.self.com/story/14-things-i-learned-from-getting-back-together-with-an-ex
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/04/why-exes-are-reconnecting-coronavirus-quarantine/610081/
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.inquirer.com/philly/blogs/sexwithtimaree/Rekindling-an-old-flame-When-is-it-OK-to-date-your-ex.html
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