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Being the parent, guardian, or teacher of a teenager can be challenging; as they get older, it's common to feel like you're speaking different languages. Having meaningful conversations with your teen is important for their emotional well-being, though, and you should feel proud of your efforts to connect! By using conversation starters as tools for connection, you can create a safe space for sharing thoughts and feelings—all while better understanding one another in the process. We've compiled a wide variety of conversation starters for you to choose from, so you can comfortably and confidently approach your next chat with the teen in your life.
Things You Should Know
- Laughter is a great way to bond. Start with light, funny questions to break the ice and assure your teen that there’s no right or wrong answer.[1]
- Ask about things they like. If you have no knowledge of these topics, ask them to teach you! Discussing their passions shows them they’re important to you.[2]
- Talk about their goals and affirm their answers. When they feel like you support their dreams, they’ll feel more comfortable opening up to you.[3]
- Avoid criticizing their responses. Even if they feel unrealistic, find a positive spin. If your teenager feels judged, they’re less likely to talk to you.
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- Appreciate the efforts you've made thus far in trying to connect with the teen in your life. Building a strong relationship takes time and patience—you're doing great!Thanks
- Start conversations in the car. It’s easier to talk when you don’t have to constantly look at each other.Thanks
- Use positive body language. To bond with your son or daughter, smile, nod when you agree, and avoid crossing your arms.Thanks
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