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If you’re considering distancing yourself from your elderly parent, you might be feeling confused—maybe even completely overwhelmed. It’s a complicated decision, and the answer is rarely simple, but one thing’s for sure: you should feel empowered to look out for your own well being. We’re here to help you do that. Plus, we’ll also unpack common reasons that children distance themselves from elderly parents, offer you tips for dealing with guilt, and give you tons of advice on how to take care of a parent from afar (if that’s your goal). You'll find everything you need to know below.
Things You Should Know
- Walking away from your parent is justified when you do it for your own health and well-being, especially if they’re abusive or behaving dangerously.
- There are many valid reasons to walk away from your parent. For example, they might have a health condition or mental illness you don’t know how to deal with.
- Manage the guilt you may feel over walking away from an elderly parent by finding ways to love them from afar rather than focusing on the sense of obligation you feel.
- Keep in mind that there may be laws requiring you to care for an impoverished parent based on where you live, but you’re allowed to arrange care from afar.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/charm-harm/202004/when-elderly-parents-are-abusive
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2019/10/its-okay-to-cut-ties-with-toxic-family-members
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-difficult-family-relationships.htm
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- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2019/10/its-okay-to-cut-ties-with-toxic-family-members
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/childhood-neglect/2016/04/10-signs-you-need-some-healthy-distance-from-your-parents
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2019/10/its-okay-to-cut-ties-with-toxic-family-members
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-difficult-family-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-difficult-family-relationships.htm
- ↑ https://www.caregiver.org/resource/emotional-side-caregiving/
- ↑ https://pameladwilson.com/why-is-caregiving-so-exhausting-even-when-you-love-your-parents-family/
- ↑ https://www.whereyoulivematters.org/six-tips-for-long-distance-caregiving/
- ↑ https://seniorsafetyadvice.com/how-can-i-help-my-elderly-parents-from-afar/
- ↑ https://pameladwilson.com/why-is-caregiving-so-exhausting-even-when-you-love-your-parents-family/
- ↑ https://www.whereyoulivematters.org/six-tips-for-long-distance-caregiving/
- ↑ https://www.whereyoulivematters.org/six-tips-for-long-distance-caregiving/
- ↑ https://hh-law.com/insights/blog/are-you-your-mothers-keeper/
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