This article was co-authored by Jessica Swenson and by How.com.vn staff writer, Caroline Heiderscheit. Dr. Jessica Swenson is a Community Psychologist & Licensed Clinical Therapist and the Founder of Transformative Growth Counseling. With over 10 years of experience, she specializes in relationships—both romantic and familial. She earned her PhD in Community Psychology from National Louis University and her MS in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University. She’s also a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional.
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Long-term relationships and marriages are usually filled with love and good intentions—but without active check-ins, how can you be sure that you’ll stay connected? By regularly asking your partner about how they’re feeling, you can build an intimate, positive, fulfilling, and deeper relationship that’s made to last. When it comes to creating (and keeping) the relationship of your dreams, the power is totally in your hands. Check out our list of the top 15 best relationship check-in questions below.
Things You Should Know
- Check-in questions can help you create a relationship that's safer, happier, and more connected across the board.
- Discuss ways you two can create a more positive dynamic. How, for instance, can you show appreciation for each other every day?
- Use check-in questions to overcome relationship challenges, insecurity, and monotony. Communication can help you stay flexible!
Steps
Expert Q&A
Tips
- When planning your a check-in conversation timing, there's no right or wrong answer. Speak with your partner and decide how often you need to reconnect in order to stay on the same page (weekly, monthly, or bi-monthly check ins are common).Thanks
- The key, though, is to make sure both partners feel safe and that the timing you choose works for both of you. If only one person's on board, these discussions might become a source of resentment, which could hurt your relationship.Thanks
- So, agree on a frequency that works for both of you. And make sure that when your set time comes along, you're both in a great headspace for the conversation. If one of you, for instance, was put on probation at work, it might make sense to delay your chat until you can both really focus.Thanks
References
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
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- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/10_pillars_of_a_strong_relationship
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ ​https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_an_unfair_division_of_labor_hurts_your_relationship
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