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You’re enjoying a passionate kiss with your boo, when you decide to sneak a quick peek at them. But to your surprise, they’re staring right back at you! While it might not be the norm, there are some people out there who like to keep their eyes open while they kiss. You may be asking yourself: what does this mean? And why would my partner kiss like this? We’ve compiled all the info you need to know about people who kiss with their eyes open (and why you might want to try it out yourself).
Things You Should Know
- Some people might kiss with their eyes open because they’re nervous or they’re trying not to bump into you.
- Others might kiss with their eyes open because they’re a visual person or they’ve just gotten into the habit.
- There is no evidence to suggest that people who kiss with their eyes open are untrustworthy or narcissistic.
Steps
Kissing with Your Eyes Open to Build Intimacy
- Focus your attention on your partner. Kissing with your eyes closed makes you focus on what your lips are doing. But when you keep your eyes open, you’re forced to look at your partner and think about them. Ask your partner to kiss you with their eyes open, then make eye contact with them as they do. See what changes about your kiss and if you feel anything different than you usually do.[4]
- Kissing with your eyes open is a great way to break up your sexual routine and add spice to your sex life, too.
- Pay attention to your own thoughts while kissing your partner. When we close our eyes while kissing our partner, we’re shutting off the visual part of our brain. When we keep our eyes open, we’re leaving ourselves open to vulnerability.[5] As you kiss your partner, stop and think about what’s running through your mind, like:
- “What is my partner thinking right now?”
- “What is my partner seeing right now?”
- “What do I see in my partner’s eyes?”
- Embrace the awkwardness and push forward into foreplay. Many couples kiss with their eyes open to build sexual intimacy. And while it may feel awkward at first (and you may need to take a step back and pause every once in a while), keep kissing your partner with your eyes open as things progress toward having sex. After that, what happens is up to you.
- Many people report that they keep their eyes open during sex.[6]
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References
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/kissing-eyes-open/
- ↑ https://pure.royalholloway.ac.uk/en/publications/out-of-touch-visual-load-induces-inattentional-numbness
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/kissing-eyes-open/
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/kissing-eyes-open/
- ↑ https://www.sciencefocus.com/the-human-body/why-do-we-close-our-eyes-when-we-kiss/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/201901/do-you-make-love-your-eyes-closed
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/kissing-eyes-open/
- ↑ https://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/kissing-eyes-open/
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