How to Impress a Girl in High School

If you’re popular in high school, impressing a girl may come easily; however, if you find it difficult, you can learn more about her, take steps to share in her interests, or make yourself more impressive from her perspective. Whether you are trying to impress her romantically or just as a friend, always remain respectful and confident in yourself.

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Making Yourself Impressive

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While guys tend to be impressed by physical appearance, girls are attracted emotionally. This means you can impress a girl with a combination of personality and physical attributes.^{[1]XResearch source}
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Have a passion. You may impress a girl if you are motivated and have a direction in life. Whether you’re trying to get into a good college, make the varsity sports team, or get elected to student council, be enthusiastic in your pursuits.^{[2]XResearch source}
- Don’t become preachy or overwhelm her with your passion.
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Think about what’s impressive about you and write it down. Make sure that you’re the only one who sees it as some people might mistake it as gloating. Use this list to boost your confidence and give you a sense of what makes you stand out from others.^{[3]XResearch source}
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Reveal a little about yourself each time you see her. Don’t be arrogant but let her know something interesting about yourself each time you have a conversation. You may also mention something just in passing. You want to build intrigue by sharing only a little bit about yourself.^{[4]XResearch source}
- For example, say something like "those are nice runners, I used to wear ones like those when I used to run track." You not only complimented her shoes but you also let her know that you run track.
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Keep yourself clean. Hygiene is important. Brush your teeth, use deodorant, shower every day, and make sure you look clean. Girls are seldom impressed by a slob or someone they think is gross.^{[5]XExpert SourceStefanie Safran
Dating Coach & MatchmakerExpert Interview. 8 May 2020.}
- Make sure you’re always clean, not just when you are around her. A rumor could start if someone sees you in a mall and thinks you smell. This could get back to her in school.
While everyone has their style, taking pride in your style will impress her. It doesn’t matter if you share the same style but showing that you dress as an individual conveys confidence.^{[6]XExpert SourceStefanie Safran
Dating Coach & MatchmakerExpert Interview. 8 May 2020.}
Don’t ask your friends to lie on your behalf or be fake. The way you treat your friends and interact with them will impress her.^{[7]XResearch source} It also shows that you are generally a sociable person.
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Be confident. High school girls tend to follow the most confident girl and form a clique around her. Follow the same cues to impress a girl by asking her to do small things for you, like picking up a book in the library for you. Subtly convey your confidence as time passes.
- Girls may easily get self-conscious so constantly taking control of a situation shows your confidence and will impress her.
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Control the conversation. Don’t be shy. If the conversation is going on to a boring topic or into an area that you have little to contribute to, change topics so that you have a lot to say. Make sure not to be rude or constantly takeover.
- The “rule of association” states that you can take any word from the conversation and make a new conversation from it. For example, if she talks about how she met a cute guy over the summer, take the word summer and say something like, “That sounds great. What was your best summer vacation? Once I went to Hawaii and caught a shark.”
- You may also ask questions about her to control the conversation. She will be impressed that you want to know so much about her. Avoid getting her to talk about negative things like doing poorly on a test or a past relationship. You want her to associate you with positive conversations to keep her impressed. Ask something like "What's your favourite flavor of ice cream?"
You don’t want this to be a one-way dynamic in which you always have to impress her. Make sure you’re not constantly trying to get her attention. Have your own hobbies and interests.
Respect her boundaries and generally respect her as a person. You’ll impress her by not becoming a creep or insulting her. Follow her lead and observe how she acts with her friends and in class. You will soon learn what she finds appropriate and what she doesn’t.

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Learning About Her

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Talk to her friends and family. Learn from her inner circle. You may ask them directly what she likes or you may subtly try and find clues to what she may find impressive. For example, you may ask if she’s in any clubs or has a favourite movie. Then you can learn more about the topic and impress her with your knowledge.
- Don’t lie about who you are or why you want to know about her. You may come off creepy or ruin your friendship if she learns you lied.
Don’t try to read her mind. Open communication is the best way to find out what might impress her. You may come off too needy and overwhelm her. Ask her directly if she sees a romantic future with you and you can impress her with a romantic gesture. If you just want to impress her as a friend, ask her directly what interests her.^{[8]XResearch source}
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Show genuine interest. Be attentive and listen to what interests her. Don’t get distracted and focus on her.^{[9]XExpert SourceStefanie Safran
Dating Coach & MatchmakerExpert Interview. 8 May 2020.} You will be able to pick up clues as to what might impress her. For example, she may talk about how she went to a play over the weekend so you may join the school play to impress her.^{[10]XResearch source}
- Communicate on a deeper level. Don’t just ask her about her hobbies, ask why she enjoys them. "That's so cool, that you play the drums! What made you choose it?"
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Observe non-verbal cues. Try to read her body language and don’t get distracted by your surroundings. If she has her arms crossed and is looking around, she is probably bored and not interested in what you’re saying. Keep her interested and read her body language to see if she is impressed with you.^{[11]XResearch source}
- If she is touching your arm or asking questions, you have her attention and she’s impressed.
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Search social media. Check her social media profiles and find out about what may impress her. You can see what she Likes on Instagram or what she posts on Facebook. You can easily see what music, tv, and movies she may be into. You can also post on her timelines with links to things that may impress her.^{[12]XResearch source}
- If you don’t have access to her social media page, make sure you look over your social media profile before asking for a Friend request. You don’t want her to judge weird photos or posts on your timeline.
Does she play sports? Is she part of any clubs? Simply ask “What are you up to this weekend” or “How’s your week so far?” You can impress her with your busy social calendar or take up a shared interest for a chance at impressing her later in the school year.

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Impressing Her Romantically

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Get her to notice you. Treat her better than her past relationships. Focus on the little things. Open the door for her, walk her to class, and be courteous. While grand gestures are good, consistently treating her well will impress her.^{[13]XResearch source}
- Don’t be a “player”. Flirting with a lot of girls is disrespectful to the girl that you want to impress.^{[14]XResearch source}
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Have self-confidence. Girls can sense if you are being fake. It’s a turn off if you’re trying too hard to impress her. Make sure you have your interests and opinions. Don’t be afraid to disagree. Be your own person.
- Don’t take up a hobby that you don’t enjoy just to impress her. Take up your own interests. "It's cool that you enjoy running but it's a bit too boring for me if I'm just running in my neighborhood. I like to mountain bike because of all the cool things I can see on the trails. You should come out next time."
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Become a knight in shining armour. Sweep her off her feet and show her that chivalry isn’t dead. Open the door for her, walk her to class, take her to exciting activities like roller coaster rides. Think of yourself as the leading man in her fairy tale.
- Don’t overcomplicate things and spend more than you can afford. Being courteous and doing small things like eating with her at lunch can impress as much as a grand gesture.
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Get some alone time. Find a quiet place and try not to fidget with your cellphone. You don’t want friends or people walking by and making either of you feel self-conscious. Getting alone time makes it easier to be yourself.^{[15]XResearch source}
- Find an activity like hiking or a movie that you can enjoy together. Put her at ease and it will be easy to impress her. "Hey, I heard you like Adam Sandler. Did you know he has a movie coming out next month? Do you want to check it out together?"
She can pick up on nervous energy but you should be able to as well. Don’t make things awkward. If you feel like holding her hand, just do it. The more you hesitate, the more you’ll build up and awkward tension. She will be impressed with confidence and ease.
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Break the touch barrier. Some people are more comfortable touching than others. She may have already hugged you or touched your arm. In that case, it will be easy to reciprocate. If you haven’t touched her already, you may subtly touch her arm if you laugh at a joke or reach out to feel the fabric of her coat if it’s cold.
- Touch can follow a compliment. She will be impressed that you noticed and compliment her. "Your hair looks really good today. It looks really soft, may I touch it?"
- Place your hand on her lower as you escort her through a door. While this is harmless, subconsciously it’s a cue that you want to get closer to her.

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How do I make a girl fall in love with me at school?
Stefanie Safran
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Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.
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This isn't something you can realistically do. You can't control the way other people feel, especially when it comes to something like love. You can showcase your confidence, dress well, and try to talk to her, but you can't trick her into falling or love or anything like that.
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How can I impress a girl at 13?
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Dress well, take care of your hair, shower every day, and be kind. So long as you're genuine, caring, and authentic, she'll be impressed!
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How do I talk to a girl on a first date?
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Just listen to her. Make eye contact, absorb what she's sharing with you, and respond to it. It's not all that different from talking to her outside of a date.
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Always remember to smile.
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Find an activity you both like and invite her to do it with you.
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Be responsive to the signs that she gives you. If she seems interested in what you are saying, keep up that part of the conversation. If she seems disinterested, change the subject.
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