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When you like someone, it can be hard not to wonder if they have a crush on you too. Luckily, if you know what to look for, you may be able to pick up signs that they like you back!
Things You Should Know
- Pay attention to physical signs like lots of eye contact and standing close to you.
- Watch their behavior online and via text. If they follow all of your social media profiles and send you texts for no reason, they may have a crush on you.
- Find out if the person has been talking about you to their friends. You can also poll your own friends to get their take on the situation.
Steps
Take note of heavy eye contact. If they are constantly staring at you, or in your direction, it may be because they have a crush on you. Try to pay attention to the difference between a normal stare when having a conversation versus a more intense, lustful glare. A lot of eye contact is one way they will try to gain your interest and get you to notice them.[1]- When you catch them looking at you, see if they pretend to look somewhere else. This is a good sign they have a crush.
- Try standing out of their sight to see if they move in a way where they can see you again. For example, if you two are talking in a group of people, stand behind someone so they can't see you. Then, watch to see if they position themself in a new spot that allows them to see you.
See how close they get to you. If they try to stand close to you at parties, or sits next to you at lunch, chances are they have a major crush on you. This is their way of getting as physically close to you as they can to express how they care and enjoys being near you.[2]Advertisement
Look at their hand gestures. People express their emotions with their body language, and that includes hands. Girls are known to flip their hair or gently touch the shoulder or hand of the person they are crushing on. Guys tend to talk more with their hands when talking to girls they have a crush on because they are excited.[3]
Pay attention to awkward behavior. If they blush around you, laugh uncontrollably for almost no reason, can't look you in the eye, or fidgets a lot, then you have your answer. These are all tell-tale signs of someone who is crushing.[4]
See if they mirror your behavior. A common sign of attraction can be shown through imitation. When people do this, they do not even realize it. Watch for someone using common words or catch phrases you say or talking about things you are interested in to relate with you more.[5]
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Notice if they follow you on social media. One big indicator that someone is totally into you is by checking to see if that person has reached out to you via social media. This means someone is thinking about you when you are not together and wants to learn more about your personal life.[6]
Watch for text messages that don't have any real meaning. If they send you a text message just to see what you are doing, or texts you all day long, then they probably can't get you off of their mind. Constant communication is a clear sign that they have a crush on you.[7]
Watch for gentle teasing. If someone has a crush on you, they may lightly make fun of you, not to hurt your feelings, but to make you smile. That is a common method of flirtation.[8]- Along with teasing, watch for funny conversations. Chances are, they will try to keep conversations light and funny to get you to laugh, if they have a crush on you.
Look for a cleaned up appearance. It can be hard to tell if someone always tries to look their best, or if it is for you. If you are Facebook friends, try looking at their photos to get a sense of what their appearance is like when you two are not around each other. If it seems that they try to look at their best only around you, then you know they are trying to impress you.[9]
Watch for special gifts. If someone stops at a shop you love to buy you a special gift, or surprises you with a little treat, then it is a sign of a crush. They want to make you happy with their small gestures of affection and show you that they care.[10]
See how available they are to you. If someone is always willing to spend time with you and never misses a chance to see you, then you can be sure they have a crush on you. Watch to see if they attend the same parties as you or cancels on other plans to hang out with you.[11]- Reader Poll: We asked 427 How.com.vn readers who've asked out their crush, and 53% of them agreed that the best way to do so is by casually suggesting to hang out and spend time together. [Take Poll] If they always want to be around you, odds are they like you.
Pay attention to compliments. If someone is crushing on you, be ready for compliments about even the smallest changes you make. Someone who likes you will notice when you get a haircut or buy a new pair of shoes, and they will let you know about that new change with a compliment.[12]
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Find out what that person says about you to friends. If he is talking highly of you around his friends or family, or brings your name up whenever he gets a chance, he may have a crush on you. It shows you are always on his mind, and he can't help but to talk about you. If you have the opportunity, try asking his friends questions about what he says when you are not around. Here is a way you could ask:- "Do you know if he is dating anyone? I never hear him say anything, and I am just curious."
Ask your friends what they think. Your friends are great resources to turn to because they may have noticed or heard things you have not. Ask them if they have seen him give you any lustful glares, or if he talks about you when you are not around. Your friends should give you the honest truth.- "Do you know if he likes anyone? Have you heard anything about who he is into?"
- "Have you noticed him acting different around me? Do you think he treats me like a friend or something more?"
Be direct and ask him. One of the best ways to find out how someone is feeling is to muster up the courage and ask. It can be a difficult thing to do, for both of you, but it is the only way you will know for sure. Here are a couple ways you can ask:- "Hey, I have been wondering something lately. Do you like me more than a friend?"
- If you like him back, you could say, "I have been wanting to talk to you about something. I have a crush on you, and I was wondering if you feel the same way?"
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- Someone might like you if they say a lot of information about themself. They may be trying to get you to learn more about them.Thanks
- If you don't like the person that's crushing on you, don't lead them on. It can really hurt their feelings.Thanks
- If your crush touches you whenever they can, that's a huge sign they like you.Thanks
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- If someone has a crush on you, they'll often face their body or feet toward you, even if they're looking at or speaking to another person. Look to see which direction their body is facing when they know you're near.
- If they hang around you but don't talk to you, they might be too shy to do so. If you like them, try approaching them instead of waiting for them to make the first move.
- If the person you like doesn't show the usual signs of having a crush on you, don't give up hope! People express their feelings in different ways.
- If you think somebody has a crush on you, don't tell everybody. They might feel embarrassed or think you have a crush on them even if you don't.
- If they're flirting with you, flirt back to see if things progress naturally. Build anticipation before making your move!
- If they get a little clumsy around you, it could be a sign that they have a crush on you.
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References
- ↑ Joshua Pompey. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 27 November 2019.
- ↑ Joshua Pompey. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 27 November 2019.
- ↑ http://datingtips.match.com/signs-someone-crush-13443532.html
- ↑ https://vkool.com/signs-someone-has-a-crush-on-you/2/
- ↑ Joshua Pompey. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 27 November 2019.
- ↑ http://vkool.com/signs-someone-has-a-crush-on-you/
- ↑ http://vkool.com/signs-someone-has-a-crush-on-you/
- ↑ http://thoughtcatalog.com/madison-moore/2013/06/10-signs-somebody-has-a-crush-on-you/
- ↑ https://vkool.com/signs-someone-has-a-crush-on-you/2/
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This article was co-authored by Joshua Pompey. Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert with over 10 years of helping people navigate the online dating world. Joshua has run his own relationship consulting business since 2009 at a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world. This article has been viewed 941,118 times.
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To find out if someone has a crush on you, check your social media accounts to see if they have recently followed you or friended you, or ask them to hang out to see whether they are willing to make time for you. These are signs they might like you! You can ask your friends whether they have noticed any signs the person likes you, like whether that person has asked your friends about you! If you are still wondering if they have a crush on you, focus on their body language for more clues!
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