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DMing a girl you like for the first time can be pretty intimidating, but you can totally strike up a good conversation this way! There are plenty of ways to approach this but no matter which you choose, aim to inject some of your IRL personality in there. She probably has a bunch of other guys in her DMs messaging her about her looks, so do something a little different and have some fun with it!
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- Let it go if she doesn’t respond. You can try messaging one more time after 24 hours have past, but anything beyond that is little over the top. They aren’t all going to be winners.[11]Thanks
- Proofread your DMs. Even if you’re misspelling on purpose to come off a little more casual, you don’t want to accidentally mistype or make an unintentional typo.[12]Thanks
Warnings
- Don’t overdo it on the emojis. Throwing in an emoji here and there is perfectly fine, but if you overdo it you may come off as childish or uninteresting.[13]Thanks
- Sending multiple DMs in a row without her responding may make you seem a little thirsty or obsessive. Stick to one DM if you can, and two at the absolute max.[14]Thanks
- Don’t say anything you wouldn’t say IRL. It’s easy to get frustrated if things don’t go your way, but lashing or being downright aggressive isn’t going to get you anywhere.[15]Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.the-sun.com/news/1123389/instagram-hidden-inbox-messages-dms/
- ↑ https://www.mic.com/p/instagram-stories-changed-the-way-we-flirt-forever-21803153
- ↑ https://fashionmagazine.com/wellness/how-to-slide-into-dms/
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2017/03/146596/how-to-slide-into-dms-instagram-guide
- ↑ https://www.vice.com/en/article/59v3k5/how-to-slide-into-someones-dms-without-embarrassing-yourself
- ↑ https://manlyandmodern.com/how-to-dm-a-girl-on-instagram-10-tips-for-sliding-into-the-dms/
- ↑ https://textgod.com/how-to-compliment-a-girl-over-text/
- ↑ https://bestlifeonline.com/instagram-flirting/
- ↑ https://www.narcity.com/60-pickup-lines-that-actually-work-on-tinder
- ↑ https://bestlifeonline.com/instagram-flirting/
- ↑ https://www.collegemagazine.com/6-commandments-sliding-girls-dm-like-average-college-dude/
- ↑ https://www.collegemagazine.com/6-commandments-sliding-girls-dm-like-average-college-dude/
- ↑ https://fashionmagazine.com/wellness/how-to-slide-into-dms/
- ↑ https://www.collegemagazine.com/6-commandments-sliding-girls-dm-like-average-college-dude/
- ↑ https://bestlifeonline.com/instagram-flirting/
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