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If you’re crushing on a guy on Instagram, sliding into his DMs is a great way to start your conversation and get to know him even more.[1] We know there’s a lot you could say in your first message to him, but some messages will make him open up more than others. We’ve got a ton of helpful tips on what to say and example messages you can try whether you want to keep it casual or start a serious relationship!
This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach, John Keegan, founder of The Awakened Lifestyle. Check out the full interview here.
Steps
Expert Q&A
Tips
- Lead up to DMing him by following his account and liking a few of his posts so he sees your name in his notifications.[15]Thanks
- Remember that what someone posts on their feed might not reflect their actual life.[16]Thanks
Warnings
- Remember that anything you message a guy could be saved or shared, so think twice before sending any racy texts or pictures.[17]Thanks
- If you don’t follow each other on Instagram, your DMs could go to a separate “Message Requests” inbox where the guy might not see them.[18]Thanks
- Celebrities and other Instagram accounts with over 75,000 followers probably won’t see your messages since a lot of people try to reach out to them.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-in-the-digital-age/202012/when-it-comes-relationships-is-instagram-real-life
- ↑ https://www.sweetyhigh.com/read/start-conversation-with-crush-on-instagram-tips-021419
- ↑ https://about.instagram.com/blog/announcements/introducing-photo-and-video-replies-to-stories
- ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/tips/g2366/flirty-texts/?slide=2
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.
- ↑ https://fashionmagazine.com/wellness/how-to-slide-into-dms/
- ↑ https://droidrant.com/how-to-start-conversation-on-instagram/
- ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/tips/g2366/flirty-texts/?slide=19
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.
- ↑ https://fashionmagazine.com/wellness/how-to-slide-into-dms/
- ↑ https://year13.com.au/articles/ways-slide-someones-dms
- ↑ https://year13.com.au/articles/ways-slide-someones-dms
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.
- ↑ https://grottonetwork.com/navigate-life/relationships/things-learned-from-sliding-into-dms/
- ↑ https://www.sweetyhigh.com/read/flirt-with-crush-instagram-032018
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-in-the-digital-age/202012/when-it-comes-relationships-is-instagram-real-life
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/2011-sexting.html?ref=search
- ↑ https://about.instagram.com/blog/announcements/introducing-new-tools-to-protect-our-community-from-abuse
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