This article was co-authored by Laura Richer and by How.com.vn staff writer, Hunter Rising. Laura Richer is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Founder of Anchor Light Therapy Collective, a multi-disciplinary mental health counseling clinic in Seattle, Washington. With more than ten years of experience in the mental health sector, she specializes in working with couples and individuals and supporting them in becoming empowered to direct their destiny. Laura holds a BA in English from Western Washington University and an MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She also received her Hypnotherapy Practitioner Training from Bastyr University, Couples Counseling Certification from The Gottman Institute, and Master Life Coach Certification from Seattle Life Coach Training. Laura is the host of the podcast Holding Ground which explores anything and everything in the world of mental health and positive psychology.
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In a strong, healthy relationship, both people put in equal effort. If your boyfriend expects more from you than he's willing to give in return, he might be taking you for granted. Luckily, there’s a lot you can do to keep that from happening. We’ll cover a variety of different things you can say and do around your boyfriend to build a balanced relationship in which you both feel valued.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionDoes ignoring your BF work?Laura RicherLaura Richer is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Founder of Anchor Light Therapy Collective, a multi-disciplinary mental health counseling clinic in Seattle, Washington. With more than ten years of experience in the mental health sector, she specializes in working with couples and individuals and supporting them in becoming empowered to direct their destiny. Laura holds a BA in English from Western Washington University and an MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She also received her Hypnotherapy Practitioner Training from Bastyr University, Couples Counseling Certification from The Gottman Institute, and Master Life Coach Certification from Seattle Life Coach Training. Laura is the host of the podcast Holding Ground which explores anything and everything in the world of mental health and positive psychology.
Licensed Mental Health CounselorClear communication is always your best bet! Let your boyfriend know what your boundaries are, and what you are and aren't okay with doing. - QuestionHow do I know if my boyfriend is taking me for granted?Laura RicherLaura Richer is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Founder of Anchor Light Therapy Collective, a multi-disciplinary mental health counseling clinic in Seattle, Washington. With more than ten years of experience in the mental health sector, she specializes in working with couples and individuals and supporting them in becoming empowered to direct their destiny. Laura holds a BA in English from Western Washington University and an MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She also received her Hypnotherapy Practitioner Training from Bastyr University, Couples Counseling Certification from The Gottman Institute, and Master Life Coach Certification from Seattle Life Coach Training. Laura is the host of the podcast Holding Ground which explores anything and everything in the world of mental health and positive psychology.
Licensed Mental Health CounselorHe might not respect your boundaries, and might try to push you into things that you aren't interested in.
Tips
- It’s okay to show empathy and do things for others sometimes, but always keep your own needs at the top of your mind so you don’t sacrifice them for someone else.[20]Thanks
- Find a way to appreciate one other every day so you both recognize what you each do in the relationship.[21]Thanks
References
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://medium.com/mind-cafe/how-to-deal-with-being-taken-for-granted-d5eaaf33525b
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.bolde.com/how-to-avoid-being-taken-for-granted-by-a-guy/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/learning-to-say-no#1
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_avoid_the_empathy_trap
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://verilymag.com/2015/07/relationship-advice-keeping-marriage-strong-appreciating-your-spouse
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201309/the-perils-and-benefits-taking-each-other-granted?collection=1071779
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://allisonfallon.com/taken-for-granted/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/romantically-attached/201608/4-ways-set-and-keep-your-personal-boundaries
- ↑ https://www.bolde.com/how-to-avoid-being-taken-for-granted-by-a-guy/
- ↑ https://www.bolde.com/how-to-avoid-being-taken-for-granted-by-a-guy/
- ↑ https://www.bolde.com/how-to-avoid-being-taken-for-granted-by-a-guy/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-quick-ways-to-recognize-your-self-worth#1
- ↑ https://allisonfallon.com/taken-for-granted/
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_avoid_the_empathy_trap
- ↑ https://verilymag.com/2015/07/relationship-advice-keeping-marriage-strong-appreciating-your-spouse
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