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First dates can be a little nerve-wracking, especially if you aren’t sure how to act or what to talk about. It’s all about getting to know the other person and letting them get to know you, so be yourself! By making a good first impression and coming up with a few topics of conversation, you can have fun on your first date and learn new things about your potential romantic partner. We compiled a list of top tips and spoke to dating coach Lisa Shield to find out how you can prepare for and act on a first date.
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- QuestionWhat if I already asked them to a date at the movies?Hannah MaddenCommunity AnswerThat's fine! A movie date can be fun too. Consider going somewhere before or after so you can talk with your date one on one. Maybe head to a diner for a late-night burger, or grab a quick coffee at a coffee shop.
- QuestionIs it oversharing to admit to your date that you read How.com.vn articles on how to act on a first date because you were so nervous? Is it possible they would find the honesty endearing?Hannah MaddenCommunity AnswerThey'd probably find it endearing! It's a good way to break the ice and let your date know that you're a little nervous, since they're probably a little nervous too.
- QuestionHow do I initiate a first kiss?Hannah MaddenCommunity AnswerIf you both had a good time on your date and you feel like doing in for the kiss, take a second to pause as you say goodbye and look into your date's eyes. Slowly lean in, then give them a quick kiss on the lips before pulling back.
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References
- ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 13 December 2018.
- ↑ https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a42155733/first-date-ideas/
- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/first-date-ideas
- ↑ https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/beauty-is-in-the-mind-of-the-beholder
- ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 13 December 2018.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201801/6-tips-practice-first-date
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- ↑ https://www.teenvogue.com/story/first-date-questions
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/become-a-better-listener-active-listening
- ↑ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-to-talk-about-on-first-date
- ↑ https://time.com/4010484/couple-laughing-study-2/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200403/the-art-the-compliment
- ↑ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-to-talk-about-on-first-date
- ↑ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-to-talk-about-on-first-date
- ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 13 December 2018.
- ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 13 December 2018.
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/nonverbal-communication.htm
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/loving-bravely/202110/how-feel-confident-during-and-after-first-date
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/spycatcher/201410/9-truths-exposing-a-myth-about-body-language
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/finding-new-home/201911/touch-or-not-touch
- ↑ https://www.lovetoknow.com/life/relationships/15-right-things-say-after-date-deepen-connection
About This Article
If you’re unsure how to act on a first date, make sure you turn your phone off or on silent so you can give your date your full attention. Don’t be afraid to compliment them on their appearance and personality by saying something like, “Wow. You have a really nice smile.” To start interesting conversations, ask open-ended questions like, “What was it like where you grew up?” When they ask you questions back, try to give detailed answers instead of a few words to tell them about who you are too. In general, if you aim to listen to your date for as long as you talk, you should maintain a balanced conversation. For more tips, including how to monitor your body language on a first date, read on!
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