This article was co-authored by Jacob Christenson, PhD, LMFT and by How.com.vn staff writer, Madeleine Criglow. Dr. Jacob Christenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the CEO of Covenant Family Solutions. With more than 20 years of experience, he specializes in substance abuse issues, parenting, medical family therapy, couples counseling, family therapy, and counseling for treatment-resistant adolescents. Dr. Christenson has also been published in many peer-reviewed journals, including Contemporary Family Therapy: An International Journal and Journal of Marital and Family Therapy. He is an AAMFT Approved Supervisor for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) and a Clinical Fellow for the Iowa Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (IAMFT). Dr. Christenson holds a BS in Psychology from California Polytechnic State University, an MS and PhD in Marriage and Family Therapy from Brigham Young University, and an MBA from The University of the People.
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A breakup is a painful experience, and not just for the couple that is parting ways. Family members can be affected by the separation, too. If you got to know your son’s ex-girlfriend, it may feel like you're losing a family member when the relationship ends. It’s perfectly normal to want to reach out to her and express how you feel, but it's important to handle the situation with care.[1] This article can help you keep both your son and his ex-girlfriend’s perspective in mind when reaching out to your son's ex-girlfriend. Consider talking to your son first, writing a letter, and keeping your message kind and brief to express your feelings while remaining neutral.
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- ↑ Jacob Christenson, PhD, LMFT. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 22 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2017/adult-children-relationship-breakups.html
- ↑ https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2017/adult-children-relationship-breakups.html
- ↑ https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2017/adult-children-relationship-breakups.html
- ↑ https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2017/adult-children-relationship-breakups.html
- ↑ Jacob Christenson, PhD, LMFT. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 22 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-go-ahead-and-contact-a-sons-ex--but-only-when-the-time-is-right/2017/08/22/65ba3640-86b3-11e7-a50f-e0d4e6ec070a_story.html
- ↑ Jacob Christenson, PhD, LMFT. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 22 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-go-ahead-and-contact-a-sons-ex--but-only-when-the-time-is-right/2017/08/22/65ba3640-86b3-11e7-a50f-e0d4e6ec070a_story.html
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-go-ahead-and-contact-a-sons-ex--but-only-when-the-time-is-right/2017/08/22/65ba3640-86b3-11e7-a50f-e0d4e6ec070a_story.html
- ↑ Jacob Christenson, PhD, LMFT. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 22 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-teen-doctor/201611/my-daughters-boyfriend-broke-her-no-reason
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/carolyn-hax-go-ahead-and-contact-a-sons-ex--but-only-when-the-time-is-right/2017/08/22/65ba3640-86b3-11e7-a50f-e0d4e6ec070a_story.html
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