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If you want to know how to stop cheating, you're already on the road to recovery. Not only does infidelity negatively impact your partner, but it can also leave you with unresolved guilt. Here, we'll share expert-backed tips about how to resist temptation, break toxic patterns, heal, and rebuild trust with your loved one. Review our guide to make amends for your past, move on from unfaithfulness, and put an end to cheating for good.
Things You Should Know
- Identify the triggers that tempt you to cheat to break your cycles.
- Avoid flirting with people you find attractive so you can prevent an affair.
- Use self-reflection and therapy to understand your patterns of infidelity.
- Communicate openly with your partner and commit to remaining faithful.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionWhy do people have emotional affairs?Lauren Urban, LCSWLauren Urban is a licensed psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York, with over 13 years of therapy experience working with children, families, couples, and individuals. She received her Masters in Social Work from Hunter College in 2006, and specializes in working with the LGBTQIA community and with clients in recovery or considering recovery for drug and alcohol use.
Licensed PsychotherapistThere may be a variety of reasons for someone to have an emotional affair. In many cases, people have emotional affairs when their needs aren't being met. This happens a lot when people feel their partner isn't there for them, physically, emotionally, or geographically.
Tips
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201910/the-8-main-reasons-why-people-cheat
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/surviving_betrayal
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-and-sex-in-the-digital-age/201410/the-cheaters-high
- ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/love/why-do-guys-cheat-if-they-love-you-trying-to-understand-infidelity/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/ethical-non-monogamy-polyamory
- ↑ https://news.fsu.edu/news/education-society/2018/02/12/lead-us-not-temptation-predictors-infidelity-divorce-highlighted-new-fsu-research/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-recognize-and-change-toxic-behavioral-patterns
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/divorce-busting/202209/ending-affair
- ↑ https://aamft.org/Consumer_Updates/Infidelity.aspx
- ↑ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/you-cheated-now-what-healing-your-relationship-after-your-affair-1220174
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/4-ways-to-repair-your-relationship-after-cheating-according-to-experts/
- ↑ https://firstthings.org/affair-proofing-your-marriage/
- ↑ https://www.gq.com/story/what-to-do-after-cheating
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-positive-side-relationships/202203/how-add-passion-your-relationship
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201811/embers-back-flames-the-erotic-power-sexual-novelty
- ↑ https://ct.counseling.org/2020/04/recovering-from-the-trauma-of-infidelity/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/relationships/getting-over-the-hurt-of-an-affair
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