How to Show People Your Religious View Is Separate from Your Sexual Orientation

One's religious views are most definitely separate from one's sexual orientation. If someone you know does not understand this, feel free to sit them down and explain each topic and how they are not interconnected. Here are a few steps you could follow to try and help clear this subject up.

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Understanding Yourself

Try looking into your religion, as well as any sects it may have and possibly other religions. You could also find prayer beneficial.
You may find that having a name for your sexuality is helpful, or you may dislike labels. Your identity is unique to you, and you will come to terms with it at your own speed.
You have the option of actively participating or simply reading/listening to what others have to say. This can assist you in better understanding yourself and others, as well as informing your worldview.
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Look for religious organizations or websites that deal with human sexuality. What are the feelings of these individuals? Are you in agreement with them? Consider whether your ideas on sexuality are in line with those of your church, or if you disagree with them.
- For other people, their church's attitude toward sexuality is a deal breaker, and they leave or cease to be religious.
- While their religion's beliefs on sexuality are objectionable, some people believe that the remainder of the religion has enough merits to keep them in the church. You are not compelled to agree with your religious leaders on whatever they say.
- Some people find a church that agrees with their sexual beliefs. In fact, there are some churches led by pastors who are part of the LGBTQ+ community.
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Make an idea of what you'd say if someone asks you a question about your identity. Having a broad idea of what you want to say can help you be more prepared to express yourself. Here are some things to think about when creating your outline.
- Discuss how your religious views affect your acceptance of persons of all sexual orientations. For instance, you might say something like "Christianity at its core is about love and acceptance and treating others with respect and dignity."
- Assure others that you do not hold religious zealots' beliefs.
- Define your religion and/or sexual orientation, especially if they are ambiguous.
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Sharing Your Views

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Wearing iconography that recalls both your religion and sexuality is a good idea. Wearing a headscarf with a rainbow bracelet, or an asexuality shirt with a Christian cross necklace, could be an example of this. Anyone who happens to glance will be able to see your point of view.
- If you are a member of a minority faith or actively display your LGBTQIA identity, you may be more vulnerable to discrimination. This isn't right, but it happens, and you should think about it before going public.
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Demonstrate a positive mindset by your actions. If you want others to know you're LGBTQ-friendly, treat LGBTQ persons with respect. Other individuals will feel secure around you if you have a welcoming approach.
- Many religions like Christianity preach kindness, love, and not passing judgment on others. Using this as a resource may assist you in developing a compassionate mindset.
This is especially crucial if members of your religion try to use religion to justify discrimination against LGBT people. This will demonstrate to others that you are not a member of one of your religion's anti-LGBT cults.
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Explaining to Confused People

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Explain briefly to anyone who is confused by your identity. Some people are unaware that persons of a specific religion can be of any sexuality, and vice versa, and all they need is a simple explanation.
- "I'm a Jewish man who is also a pansexual. Religion and sexuality are two different things."
- "I was raised as a Catholic and identify as bisexual. I believe that the tenet of loving your neighbor includes LGBT individuals, so I am at ease with my faith."
- "Yes, gay people are everywhere, including Iran! I am Muslim and gay."
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Make it clear that sexuality isn't a choice. Some people may believe that you are selecting your orientation because of your religious beliefs or because you want to be different.
- "I didn't choose to be asexual, just as you didn't choose to be heterosexual. I can't make myself asexual, any more than you can make yourself asexual."
- "It's not a choice to be bisexual; if it were, who would prefer to be harassed or discriminated against?"
You may not have the time or energy to answer all of their questions or correct their mistakes. Encourage them to conduct some research and, if possible, assist them in getting started.
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Don't be too concerned about it. It's fine if not everyone understands what you're saying. You don't have to spend time explaining anything to someone who isn't interested.
- Some people are simply unkind, and conversing with them is pointless. Prioritize your mental health and spend time with a variety of people.
- Some people have a misunderstanding about religion and sexuality. Perhaps they are willing to learn, or perhaps they are too young or uninterested. Everything is fine. Don't stress about the rest; just be yourself.
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Tips

Be confident in who you are and what beliefs you hold. Don't shy away from saying how you truly feel because you are scared of judgment.
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If a conversation is getting heated, walk away. Arguments are unnecessary and no fun.
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Warnings

Be careful when discussing religion. It can be a touchy subject, especially if people feel that their personal beliefs are being criticized. Practice kindness towards people of other religions, even if you disagree with their beliefs.
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