This article was co-authored by Jacqueline Hellyer and by How.com.vn staff writer, Luke Smith, MFA. Jacqueline Hellyer is a Licensed Psychosexual Therapist and the Founder of The Love Life Blog and The LoveLife Clinic. With over 20 years of experience, Jacqueline specializes in sex advice, sex tips, and relationship advice. In addition to being an accredited Psychosexual Therapist with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS), Jacqueline is also a Professional Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF). Jacqueline holds a BSc in Biochemistry and Human Sciences from The Australian National University, a Graduate Diploma in Applied Science from the University of Canberra, a BA in Languages and Literature from the University of New England (AU), an MSc in Sexual Health from The University of Sydney, and an MSc in Consciousness, Spirituality & Transpersonal Psychology from The Alef Trust. Her work and expertise have been featured in Australian Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Australian Women’s Health, Marie Claire, and 60 Minutes.
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Before you marry someone, you want to know as much about them as you can, and that includes the questions about sex. How important is sex to them in a relationship? How often do they want to have it? What’s off limits, and what might they want to try? Conversations about you and your partner’s wants and needs only serve to strengthen your relationship, which is why we’ve compiled all the best questions about sex to ask before you get married, plus helpful tips on how to actually ask those questions.
Things You Should Know
- Ask your partner relationship-based questions like: What does sex mean to you? What’s your sexual history? What do you need from a sexual partner?
- Ask your partner pleasure-based questions like: What are your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs? Is there anything you’ve always wanted to try?
- Ask your questions when you’re not aroused or about to have sex, in order to have the most logical and level-headed conversation without feelings getting in the way.
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