This article was co-authored by Luis Congdon and by How.com.vn staff writer, Ali Garbacz, B.A.. Luis is a Relationship Coach, specializing in helping couples who want a long and happy relationship together. Luis has worked in one of the United States' largest research studies on marital longevity using the framework of Drs. John & Julie Gottman. As a researcher on marital happiness and a relationship coach, Luis has worked with over 1,000 couples, written for the Gottman Institute, spoken at colleges and universities across the United States, been featured in Forbes magazine, and has led over 150 relationship-building classes.
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There’s a lot to think about before making the big decision to tie the knot with your partner. By getting married, you’re legally binding yourself to your partner for the rest of your life, and that comes with both pros and cons depending on how you look at it. If you’re on the fence about getting married or simply want to know everything that marriage has in store, we’ve got you covered. We’ll walk you through the specific benefits and costs that come with marriage so that you feel more prepared before taking that next step. We’ll also give you a list of questions to ask yourself to help you figure out if you’re ready for marriage.
Things You Should Know
- The advantages of marriage include financial and legal benefits, such as the ability to jointly file taxes and acquire your spouse’s Social Security or disability benefits.
- The disadvantages of marriage include high divorce rates, marriage dissatisfaction, and financial strain that may occur from overspending or the high costs of raising children.
- Talk with your partner about things such as how you’ll manage your finances and your individual views on having kids before deciding to get married.
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