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If you've spent any time watching TikToks, you've probably come across several Pick Me Boy point-of-view videos. So, what is a Pick Me Boy? Most TikToks give a lot of examples, but not much background on the term. In this article, we'll give you the breakdown on the Pick Me Boy and things he might say, so you'll be able to spot one in your own life.
Things You Should Know
- A pick me boy emotionally manipulates women by faking low self esteem.
- He also may falsely claim to hold feminist or progressive views to garner favor.
- The term has its roots in African American Vernacular English, and began appearing on Urban Dictionary and TikTok in 2021.
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Where did the term come from?
- Pick Me Boy has its origins in African American Vernacular English. The term first popped up in online magazines like Dominique and The Root back in 2017. Articles described the Pick Me Man as a variation of a simp—someone who does way too much for someone they like.[2]
- Although the term means something different now, it's important to recognize that it had its start in Black internet culture.
- You can treat a Pick Me Boy the same way you'd deal with a simp—be honest and clear about how you feel.
- The term showed up on Urban Dictionary and TikTok in 2021. Pick Me Boy entries popped up on Urban Dictionary in February and the idea quickly made its way to TikTok, where the term became really popular.
- A lot of TikToks point out the differences between the Pick Me Girl and the Pick Me Boy—neither of the terms is very positive, so they're cautionary videos. The Pick Me Girl claims to be different from all other women, so she stands out to men.
Community Q&A
- QuestionWhat are male pick-me girls called? Because I tend to do this: put down stereotyped male behavior in other men to get female attention.Ana HernandezCommunity AnswerThey're called pick me boys, but also do consider your behavior, too, if you do those things. Try practicing self-gratitude, for instance.
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