How to Pet a Bird

Birds are incredibly intelligent creatures that make for fun, interesting, and popular pets. That said, a bird can't be treated the same way as a dog, a cat, or a rabbit. Birds have to be treated carefully in a number of ways, and one that tends to surprise people is how to pet them. It's not as easy as petting a more furry creature, but birds can enjoy being petted if you do it right.

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Approaching the Bird

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Understand you shouldn't always pet every bird. Birds are very individual, unique creatures - some really enjoy being petted by anyone and everyone, while some others won't be willing to accept touch even from their owner.^{[1]XResearch source}
- If you're trying to pet a bird you don't own, understand that it may need to get to know you before it becomes comfortable with letting you pet it. It may be better to visit with the bird and gain its trust before attempting to physically touch it at all.
- If you do own a bird, understand that not every bird will eventually warm up to petting. Some just do not enjoy it, instead preferring their personal space. If you find this to be the case, you should not try to force it to enjoy being pet. Instead, it's much better to try and find other ways to bond with your bird, such as teaching it tricks or letting it perch near you while you work.
Make sure it's aware you are there and sees your approach. Speak to the bird for a bit before reaching out to it; don't just grab for the poor thing. Make sure it's warmed up to your presence first and is aware of what you're doing, especially when you first try petting the bird for the first time or two.^{[2]XResearch source}
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Assess the bird's body language and make sure it's comfortable. Birds have a wide array of communications, but a lot of it is nonverbal, so it's important to read any cues you're getting.^{[3]XResearch source}
- Is the bird extremely stiff and staring at you as you approach? Is it trying to move or lean away from you, or pushing you away? Is it attempting to bite you? All of these are more or less obvious signs the bird is uncomfortable with what you're doing, and you should stop.^{[4]XResearch source}
- Is the bird turning its head a bit, or even bowing its head on your approach? Is it closing its eyes? Is it ruffling or fluffing up its feathers a bit? These are signs that the bird is relaxed, trusting, and comfortable with what you're doing. Which is good!

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Don't pet below the bird's neck. This is the golden rule. Many inexperienced bird owners don't realize that a lot of bird species, especially certain breeds of parrots, consider touch below the neck to be a kind of breeding ritual. As a result, frequently petting a bird around its back, wings, or tail can lead to all kinds of behavioural problems later on.^{[5]XResearch source}
- While this isn't the case for every bird, they also tend to prefer being petted on the head and neck more than anything anyway, because those are the only spots they can't reach by themselves. So, it's generally better to just stay above the neck. Everyone is happier that way.
This will help it to get used to you, and works as a good starting point. Be sure to be very gentle, especially when the bird is just starting to experience petting.
Unlike most pets, it's generally agreed that birds prefer being petted against the natural direction of their feathers, rather than from the head towards the tail. This is good to keep in mind.
You can try to gently rub the skin just behind the its beak and the sides of its head, if it still seems relaxed and comfortable. Birds also tend to enjoy being petted around their ears. (Take care around the eyes, though.)
Birds also tend to enjoy being scratched under their beaks. Again, though, don't go lower than the neck if possible, in order to keep the bird comfortable.
Most birds require some time to get to know and trust a person before they will allow petting or other forms of affection. However, once you've gained a bird's trust, they prove to be exceptionally loyal. Be very gentle and very patient, and it's very likely you'll get there soon enough.

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Once again, try not to pet a bird below the neck. Because birds consider this a breeding ritual, this will not only sexually arouse them but also, over time, convince them that you could be a potential mate. Since you are (most likely) not a bird, the resulting confusion and frustration on the bird's end can lead to behavioural problems such as aggression to you and others, regurgitating its food for you, loud screaming, and plucking its own feathers.
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If you start to notice any of the aforementioned issues, consult a veterinarian or another avian expert for advice. Such issues can be fixed, especially if you're aware of the problem, but they do need to be addressed for your bird's health.
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