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Someone with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, may act arrogant, entitled, selfish, and unempathetic. NPD is a mental disorder that can only be diagnosed and treated by a qualified professional.[1] If you think someone in your life has narcissist tendencies and they’ve been treating you poorly, we’re here to help. If they play mental games, manipulate, or even emotionally abuse you, it may feel impossible to get the upper hand in any conversation or interaction. We’ve put together plenty of tips and suggestions to help you outsmart them so you can put space between yourself and the narcissist in your life and find peace.
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Expert Q&A
- QuestionDo narcissists have empathy?Jay Reid, LPCCJay Reid is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) in private practice in San Francisco, CA. He specializes in helping clients who have survived a narcissistic parent or partner. Treatment focuses upon helping clients identify and challenge self-diminishing beliefs as a result of narcissistic abuse. Jay holds a BA in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and an MS in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University.
Licensed Professional Clinical CounselorUnfortunately, narcissists have deficits in empathy. Things that are intuitive to most people, like asking about other people, don't occur to a narcissist. They're just too focused on themselves. - QuestionWhy do narcissists hate being affectionate?RubyTop AnswererIt's not necessarily that they hate affection, but it can leave them feeling vulnerable. They may not want to show this side of them.
- QuestionCan a narcassist love at all?RubyTop AnswererYes. Some narcissists can feel love. Some don't, but this doesn't make them a bad person by default, and most will still make an effort to be decent people to others.
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Tips
- As hard as it is, try not to take what the person says or does personally. Their behavior only reflects them and has nothing to do with you.Thanks
- Remember that NPD is a mental illness that the person might not have much control over. Encourage them to seek counseling.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd
- ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/narcissistic-supply/
- ↑ https://www.divorcemag.com/blog/get-leverage-when-negotiating-with-a-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202001/the-dos-and-donts-working-narcissist-boss
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-to-heal-from-emotional-abuse/
- ↑ https://www.choosingtherapy.com/narcissistic-supply/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201710/how-de-escalate-fight-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201710/how-de-escalate-fight-narcissist
- ↑ https://healingartssfl.org/how-to-beat-narcissists-with-the-grey-rock-method/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/narcissism-demystified/201907/10-things-not-do-narcissists
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/narcissism-decoded/2017/06/11-ways-to-set-boundaries-with-narcissists#1
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/narcissism-demystified/201907/10-things-not-do-narcissists
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-narcissism/201710/how-de-escalate-fight-narcissist
- ↑ https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/unreality-check-cognitive-dissonance-in-narcissistic-abuse-1007144
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/addiction-and-recovery/202102/how-do-i-detach-narcissist
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/pro/recovery-expert/2019/06/going-no-contact#4
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/addiction-and-recovery/202102/how-do-i-detach-narcissist
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