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You’re in the bedroom making eyes at your partner, but when the time comes, your body just won’t seem to cooperate. You’re mentally turned on, but physically you might as well be a monk in a mountain monastery. What gives? “Arousal non-concordance” is the term for what you’re experiencing, and it’s a common and multifaceted problem. We’ll fill you in on what exactly the term means and why your body isn’t playing nice with your brain. Then, we’ll offer helpful ways to enjoy yourself in bed without worry.
Things You Should Know
- “Arousal non-concordance” is when your physical and mental arousal don’t align, or when one happens without the other.
- You might experience differences in arousal due to medications, hormone imbalances, poor stimulation, or stress or other mental conditions.
- Use lubrication or toys, or perform kegels to stimulate your physical arousal. Also talk to your partner about what you like in bed to ensure safe, comfortable sex.
Steps
Expert Q&A
Tips
- While physical and sexual arousal are linked in many ways, they’re not totally inseparable. Just because you experience physical arousal does not mean you want or consent to sex.[19]Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2811244/
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- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/5-reasons-women-dont-enjoy-sex-and-how-to-fix-them/
- ↑ https://www.madeofmillions.com/articles/whats-going-ocd-arousal
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15216-low-libido-low-sex-drive
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9121-sexual-dysfunction
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/22673-hormonal-imbalance
- ↑ https://www.nct.org.uk/pregnancy/relationships-sex/sex-trimester-one-two-and-three-pregnancy
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9121-sexual-dysfunction
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15216-low-libido-low-sex-drive
- ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/sexual-dysfunction/genital-arousal-disorder
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/5-reasons-women-dont-enjoy-sex-and-how-to-fix-them/
- ↑ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/sex-pleasure-and-sexual-dysfunction/sexual-dysfunction/genital-arousal-disorder
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15216-low-libido-low-sex-drive
- ↑ https://www.uchicagomedicine.org/forefront/womens-health-articles/kegels-the-30-second-exercise-that-can-improve-incontinence-and-sex
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15216-low-libido-low-sex-drive
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15216-low-libido-low-sex-drive
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/15216-low-libido-low-sex-drive
- ↑ https://worldassociationofsexcoaches.org/big-disconnect-arousal-nonconcordance/
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