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Moving in together isn’t always the best option for every couple, even married couples. Living alone together (LAT), or when committed romantic partners choose to live in separate homes, is an increasingly popular arrangement that resists many traditional concepts of what a family unit should be, and makes many couples happier in the process. We’ll tell you more about what LAT is, who does it and why, and the challenges they may face. We’ll also offer valuable advice on how to make an LAT relationship work for you, if you’re considering the change.
Things You Should Know
- Living apart together refers to committed, romantic relationships in which the spouses or partners live in separate homes.
- Spouses commonly choose to live apart together in order to keep their individual jobs that may be located far apart, or as an extra step before moving in together.
- Many choose to live apart together to preserve their personal or financial independence, or because their personal lifestyle may clash with their spouse’s.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionHow can we maintain a healthy relationship?Asa Don Brown, PhD, DNCCM, FAAETSDr. Asa Don Brown is a Clinical Psychologist with over 25 years of experience. He specializes in working with families, children, and couples, treating a variety of psychological disorders, trauma, and abuse. Dr. Brown has specialized in negotiation and profiling. He is also a prolific author having published three books and numerous articles in magazines, journals, and popular publications. Dr. Brown earned a BS in Theology and Religion with a minor in Marketing and an MS in Counseling with a specialization in Marriage and Family from The University of Great Falls. Furthermore, he received a PhD in Psychology with a specialization in Clinical Psychology from Capella University. He is also a candidate for a Masters of Liberal Arts through Harvard University. Dr. Brown is a Fellow of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress and a Diplomate for the National Center for Crisis Management and continues to serve a number of psychological and scientific boards.
Clinical PsychologistSustaining a thriving relationship hinges on the strength of the connection. Ensure that you not only prioritize regular communication but also make an effort to be physically present whenever possible. The significance of a physical connection cannot be overstated, as the absence of an in-person presence is often a stumbling block for many relationships. Additionally, make a deliberate effort to plan shared experiences and outings. During these times, steer clear of smartphones and other electronic devices; instead, focus on genuine interaction. While music can enhance the atmosphere, mindlessly scrolling through the latest trends detracts from the relationship. Consider arranging special meals together, and once again, minimize the use of gadgets. When you are physically together, make intentional plans to dedicate quality time to each other.
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