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Sometimes breaking up with someone is easier said than done. If you’ve ever been stuck in a cycle of breaking up and making up, it can seem like it’s impossible to leave your ex for good. But you can do it. There are things you can do to keep yourself from falling back into an unhappy relationship. To help you out, we’ve put together a list of things you can do to move on for good.
Steps
Expert Q&A
- QuestionWhat are some signs that my relationship might not work?Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCCMoshe Ratson is the Executive Director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a coaching and therapy clinic in New York City. Moshe is an International Coach Federation accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He received his MS in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College. Moshe is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF).
Relationship TherapistAsk yourself if you're emotionally present in the relationship or if you have any needs that your partner doesn't fulfill. You can also question your expectations and what aspects of your relationship work. - QuestionI live with my partner and I need to tell her that I don't want to get re-married. What should I do?Tasha Rube, LMSWTasha Rube is a Licensed Social Worker based in Kansas City, Kansas. Tasha is affiliated with the Dwight D. Eisenhower VA Medical Center in Leavenworth, Kansas. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Missouri in 2014.
Licensed Master Social WorkerThe most important thing is not to lead her on. Don't let her think you're interested in getting re-married if you're really not. If this is how you truly feel, you should let her know with as much honesty and respect as possible. - QuestionMy partner keeps talking me out of making the final break. How can I leave him without being convinced not to?Tasha Rube, LMSWTasha Rube is a Licensed Social Worker based in Kansas City, Kansas. Tasha is affiliated with the Dwight D. Eisenhower VA Medical Center in Leavenworth, Kansas. She received her Masters of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Missouri in 2014.
Licensed Master Social WorkerBe honest and straightforward with your partner. Let them know how you feel and what you want. If this is a breakup, your best bet is to be as forthcoming as possible with your feelings. Take care of yourself and be truthful to YOU.
Tips
- If you’re feeling really sad or depressed after your separation, you can try talking to a counselor or therapist. They may be able to help you better cope with your feelings.Thanks
Warnings
- If your ex is aggressive or abusive, contact the police. Put an end to any threatening behavior as soon as it starts so it doesn’t get out of hand.Thanks
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References
- ↑ Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.
- ↑ https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/i-want-leave-divorce-separation-my-partner-what-do-i-do-now-relationship-advice-relate-counselling-a6790501.html
- ↑ Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.
- ↑ Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201812/how-leave-long-term-relationship
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201812/how-leave-long-term-relationship
- ↑ Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201812/how-leave-long-term-relationship
- ↑ https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/i-want-leave-divorce-separation-my-partner-what-do-i-do-now-relationship-advice-relate-counselling-a6790501.html
- ↑ https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/i-want-leave-divorce-separation-my-partner-what-do-i-do-now-relationship-advice-relate-counselling-a6790501.html
- ↑ https://www.vice.com/en/article/4agnzq/moving-out-after-a-breakup
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201812/how-leave-long-term-relationship
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201812/how-leave-long-term-relationship
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.
- ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/staying-strong-after-a-break-up/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/owning-pink/201104/15-ways-leave-your-lover-love
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
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