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If you sometimes have trouble keeping a conversation going, you're not alone! Even the biggest social butterfly is going to get a little tongue-tied from time to time. Ultimately, it all comes down to preparation and practice, as well as doing what you can to make the other person feel comfortable. Read on for more tips you can put to work to become a sparkling conversationalist.
Things You Should Know
- Use small talk about music, movies, TV shows, sports, or even the weather to find common ground that you can start a conversation from.
- Give the person a compliment or two to help them warm up to you and feel more at ease.
- Ask open-ended questions to give the person an opportunity to talk about themselves, then ask follow-up questions based on their responses.
Steps
Conversation Examples
Community Q&A
- QuestionHow do you make a conversation, which includes lots of gossip and dark humor?Community AnswerOnly gossip to those you can trust. Dark humor is also only acceptable in certain situations and for people who don't take it too seriously.
- QuestionWhen he says he's at school? How can I keep the conversation going?Community AnswerAsk him about his classes!
- QuestionHow do I start a conversation with a girl when her guy friends stick to her?Community AnswerShe will have to be alone at some point, approach her then. If not, just be brave and approach her while her friends are there. If they are her friends, you will be stuck with them anyway. Just be yourself.
Tips
References
- ↑ https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine/articles/the-art-of-small-talk
- ↑ https://deeperconvos.com/useful-phrases-to-keep-a-conversation-going/
- ↑ https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine/articles/the-art-of-small-talk
- ↑ Cristina Morara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ Cristina Morara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ https://deeperconvos.com/useful-phrases-to-keep-a-conversation-going/
- ↑ https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine/articles/the-art-of-small-talk
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2021/09/deep-conversations-strangers
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/talk-to-strangers/
- ↑ https://raisingchildren.net.au/preschoolers/connecting-communicating/communicating/conversation-skills
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-clarity/202109/the-subtle-dance-eye-contact-in-conversation
- ↑ https://stanfordmag.org/contents/how-to-talk-to-strangers
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/talk-to-strangers/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.htm
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/talk-to-strangers/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brave-talk/202101/11-tips-talking-someone-you-disagree
- ↑ https://www.toastmasters.org/magazine/articles/the-art-of-small-talk
- ↑ https://stanfordmag.org/contents/how-to-talk-to-strangers
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/optimizing-success/202206/9-easy-ways-start-conversation-stranger
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/talk-to-strangers/
About This Article
To keep a conversation going, ask the person you're talking to open-ended questions like, "What are your plans for this weekend?" or "What are your favorite places to hang out around here?" so that they keep talking. You can also try bringing up topics that the other person likes, or if you don't know them well, asking them what their favorite things are. Try to listen carefully to the person you're talking to so you can use what they say to steer the conversation in new directions. Also, don't worry if there are a few seconds of silence occasionally since that's normal in conversations. To learn how to maintain good body language during a conversation, scroll down!
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