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Everyone's life is affected by it. Heartbreak, despair, and loneliness abound, not to mention the dreadful desire for that one someone. It's even more difficult if you're an LGBTQ person giving your heart for the first time. Here is where you can get some assistance.
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Allow yourself to feel the emotions when they arise. Don't try to make it seem like it didn't happen or that it wasn't painful. Allow yourself to feel all of the hurt and pain, as well as any rage. The only issue is that you experience these sensations all of the time, and getting emotional at work or school is not a good thing. To get through your days, try to suppress your emotions as much as possible. Allow yourself to feel the anguish after work or school, cry it out, and seek help from friends and loved ones.
Talk to a friend or other loved one. The first step in getting over your first love is talking to someone about it. Write in a journal or diary. Get it off your chest. Express those emotions in words, out loud to someone you trust, and in writing. Sometimes writing is a very useful and personal way to express emotions, because you can be even freer when writing than when talking to another person. In any case, getting some support from a friend or relative can really help to relieve you of your burden, allow someone to comfort you, even if you can't be totally consoled.Advertisement
Keep your composure. You could feel as if you don't know who you are without your love, as if "I'm nothing without them." That is not the case. Before this relationship, you were just you. You've returned to your true self. You have friends who were formerly your friends. You've got a family. Keep in mind who you are. You are your parents' eldest/middle/youngest kid. With or without your affection, you have the love and respect of your family and friends. Keep hold of the people you care about and the people who care about you.
Dig deeper. Allowing yourself to feel sad, lonely, and lost is fine, but you must also search deep inside yourself for a place where you are not broken. Grasp that and grasp on tight. When we're shattered, it's how we keep ourselves together. Nobody will tell you it's not difficult. However, it is required.
Let go of negative memories, keep good ones. Don't dwell on the negative aspects of your life. Simultaneously, don't romanticize the wonderful bits too much. Remember that there were issues and quarrels. Nonetheless, you learnt a lot and had a lot of fun, and they are memories that will last a lifetime.
Take your time to move on. No one can tell you how long it will take you to recover from the loss of a loved one. One day at a time, one step at a time, one day at a time. If the breakup has had a serious impact on you, don't be afraid to seek medical help.Advertisement
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- QuestionI like this girl. We talked on Instagram for a while and we had good conversations, but then we stopped chatting, and now when I see her around we only say "hi" and that's it. What do I do?
Community AnswerThere's a really good chance this means she isn't interested. However, if you still are, you can always go out of your way to initiate more conversations, whether on Instagram or in person, and see how she responds. But if you do this and she's not really receptive to talking, it would probably be best to just let it go. - QuestionThere's a girl I've liked for 3 years. We are best friends. We flirt in a joking way, but sometimes she looks serious. What should I do?
Community AnswerYou should ask her point blank if she's just joking or not, or just tell her directly how you feel. Probably the worst thing that could happen is she says she's not interested in anything more than friendship. If that's the case, at least you'll know, and you can move on. - QuestionThere's a girl I've been talking to on Instagram, and I get the vibe she likes me back, but she's moving soon just as I was starting to get to know her. What should I do?Community AnswerYou can keep your friendship long distance, and if it becomes romantic you can work out a way to have a long distance relationship. Plenty of people use the internet to date long distance, and there are plenty of ways you can keep in touch with her.
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- Don't turn to drugs or alcohol to cope--it will only harm you in the long term.Thanks
- Allowing yourself to wallow is a bad idea. Don't merely wallow in misery, even if you want to feel and share those feelings.Thanks
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