How to Get Your Crush to Be Your Friend

Have a crush and don't know how to get closer to them? Follow these steps to turn a crush into a friend, and maybe become more in the long run.

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Preparing Yourself

This will help distinguish you from the crowd, as well as show your crush that you have a cool sense of fashion. It may impress them and perhaps even be the opening for a conversation. Be sure that your clothes complement your body type and that your colors match. Although you don't have to wear expensive clothing, make sure that you have ones of good quality.
It's important to seem as appealing as possible so that your crush may take an interest in you. Take care of your personal hygiene, such as showering, brushing your teeth, and washing your face to get rid of grime. Add a subtle but pleasant scent by using deodorant, cologne, or body spray. Be sure that your hair is styled neatly, but make sure that you don't add too much product; otherwise, it'll weigh your hair down and give it a false or grimy appearance.
Be sure to adjust your body so that you appear open and inviting. Make sure that you're not positioned in a manner that may seem closed off or discourage your crush from talking to you (ex: arms crossed). You could also show some "subconscious" indications that you're interested in your crush.
Confidence can completely change a person's appearance and help them seem more attractive. It shows that you're proud of who you are and that you aren't afraid to be unique. Although you should avoid being cocky, be sure that you give off a confident, cheerful air.
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Getting Help

They may be able to give you advice on how to approach your crush, as well as help you make plans. Although you shouldn't completely accept their words, it's nice to have some people that you can rely on.
If you spot your crush nearby, talk with your friends about a topic that your crush may like. For instance, if they're obsessed with lacrosse and your friend happens to play the sport, ask your friend some questions about it. Your crush might jump into the conversation. If you're focusing on subjects that you're unfamiliar with, be sure to do your research beforehand so that you have the right facts.
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Form friendships with your crush's friends. It'll not only help you gain information about your crush but also show that you can get along with people. However, it's recommended that you form authentic relationships so that you don't appear fake. Otherwise, people might feel that you manipulated them for your own benefit.
- Avoid simply using them. Treat them as if they're your friends, and they might invite you to hang out with them.
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Becoming Friends With Your Crush

It not only captures their attention but also makes it easier for you to start a conversation. You may also have a higher chance of being paired up together, and you can discuss assignments and tests with them. You'll also be able to comment on what they say without looking weird.
There are a variety of different topics that you can talk about, but you can mostly focus on the ones that your crush is interested in. Try to come up with a new subject every time you talk to them. That way, they'll see you as an interesting, fun person and perhaps look forward to your conversations. You could also try asking them for help with a task, even if you don't need assistance. As long as it's believable, it should work as long as you don't do this too frequently. However, be sure that you show that you're intelligent. For instance, if you're a math whiz, don't ask your crush questions related to math.
You could also your crush about an assignment, which may open the way up to other subjects. Even if you're not in the same class, ask your crush about their lessons or what homework they have. However, be sure to talk about other topics so that you don't exhaust the current one.
In order to show them that you care, lend them pencils, paper, or any other supplies that they may need. Allow them to cry on your shoulder if something bad happens to them, and show them that you are a kind person. Be sure that you don't overdo it; otherwise, they may take advantage of your generosity.
A simple "hello" might lead to a conversation. Even if you don't have time to talk to them, quickly greet them to show that you're thinking of them. It may also grab their attention and cause them to think of you.
Add your crush to Facebook or other social networks you're both on. This is especially recommended if you both have mutual friends. This can lead the way to conversations outside of school, and you may be invited to events.
Now that you're talking to your crush, subtly flirt with them. This will help you get a sense of how interested they are in you, and you'll also show that you're attracted to them. If you get a positive response, continue flirting a bit and slowly increase it. However, if you feel that they aren't interested, tone it down a bit.
Although you may be attracted to them, you need to focus on your own life. They are just a person, and if they don't show interest, move on. No person is worth that much effort.
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If you're too shy to approach them, find one of their friends and hang out with them before your crush comes.
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If they already have a date, just keep being their friend until they break up, then make a move on them. Give your friend time to get over the breakup, though. Their ex might not like the fact that someone else is going after him or her. And be sure that they are ready for another relationship. Don't be a rebound.
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When being their friend, be casual. Go skating, etc.
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Don't be clingy! if you want to be friends with your crush, don't always be by their side, and don't get mad if they hang out with other people.
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Being his or her friend may be dangerous later. You may treasure this friendship too much to risk telling him how you feel.
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Don't start too many conversations with them, and don't ask too many questions. They'll think you're one of those creepy stalkers. The best way is to make yourself as approachable as possible and make it super easy for them to talk to you.
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