How to Flirt With Guys at School

An easy guide on catching his eye and creating chemistry

Can't get your dream guy to notice you? Or you simply don't know how to flirt? You've come to the right place! Here we will teach you how to be a confident flirty woman, so put in those contacts and read carefully!

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Be conscious of your appearance. If you want to flirt with guys, the first thing that you need is to pay attention to your physical appearance. You should wear clothes that look good on you - something elegant, clean looking, comfortable, and at the same time, something that makes you feel confident. Remember, you don't need to have millions of expensive outfits to look beautiful because some simple fashions never go out of style!^{[1]XExpert SourceMaria Avgitidis
Matchmaker & Dating ExpertExpert Interview. 20 December 2019.}
- Try sporting dark, slimming jeans, a simple solid colored tank or cami, some chunky bead necklaces, or a cute sun dress.
- Avoid looking like a slob or wearing any outfits that have stains or wrinkles in them.
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Groom yourself to look beautiful. Be sure that you shower and clean yourself regularly. You should also wear deodorant, shave frequently, clean your ears, brush your teeth and hair, and you could try to paint your nails. Also, try to wear your hair in a style that makes you feel pretty - have a variety of hairstyles so you don't feel boring!^{[2]XExpert SourceMaria Avgitidis
Matchmaker & Dating ExpertExpert Interview. 20 December 2019.}
- If desired, use a perfume that smells sweet, but is not too overpowering. Two sprays on the neck and one spray on one wrist, then rub your two wrists together to transfer the scent.
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Don't stay in a group. A guy may find it a little uncomfortable to approach you if you are in a large group of people. No man can bear a rejection in front of a herd. Also, he may feel that he can't approach you because of your friends.
This gives him the opportunity to approach you easily. Also, try to minimize the distance between the two of you. For example, you can sit at the chair next to him.
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Remember that actions are powerful. There are multiple ways to act flirty, here are some of the best suggestions:
- Compliment him. Be sure to compliment him on things that are true. Be sincere. Sometimes people will make up compliments just to talk to someone, but that is a totally wrong thing to do. You really should compliment on things you actually like about a person, so you sound more natural and confident.
- Make eye contact. The eyes can be the most effective tool for flirting. It's possible to make a guy's heart skip a beat simply by giving him a playful, lusty, or lingering stare.^{[3]XExpert SourceMaria Avgitidis
  Matchmaker & Dating ExpertExpert Interview. 20 December 2019.} Here is how to do it:
  - If you're walking by someone you've got the hots for, give him a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. He'll get the message.
  - Additionally, when you're talking to a guy you like, take a second to momentarily break away from his eyes and pause on his upper body or chest. Let 2 seconds pass. Then slowly move your eyes back up and make eye contact again. This will give him chills of excitement. He'll realize that you were checking him out - and he'll love it. However, be warned that shy guys will feel uncomfortable and more nervous, as much as they may like it!
- Smile and giggle. According to polls, a laugh and a smile are the sexiest things a female can wear. If you perfect your smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will find some great results. Practice forcing a natural smile and laugh, it can help through awkward situations.^{[4]XExpert SourceMaria Avgitidis
  Matchmaker & Dating ExpertExpert Interview. 20 December 2019.}
- You can learn to brush a guy in such a way that you send tingles up and down his spine. Casually and gently tap him on the hand while laughing, it will give him a sense of manliness.
Approach him and start a light conversation to get things going, but don't make it too obvious that you like him. If he approaches you, look him in the eyes as a sign of affection and confidence. The best opening line is just saying hello. Talk about what you have in common, talk about your surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.
After he has come up to you and both of you have started talking, just try to find out whether he is your type or not. Is he one of the pushy ones, or will he stop at the line you draw? If you feel comfortable with him, carry on with the evening. In case he is not your type, just excuse yourself politely from his company. However, remember that you are the one who led him on. Now if you don't feel up to it, don't get outright rude.
If he's interested in you, don't just go immediately to be "best friends" or "boyfriend and girlfriend". Just start hanging out with him, become friends first, slowly become best friends or even more, let the relationship develop naturally! You want to make sure that he is the right guy for you, and you have things in common! It's fine if he doesn't seem like your type; stick with him and you may have secured yourself a best friend for life!

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How do I attract guys at school?
Maria Avgitidis
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Maria Avgitidis is the CEO & Matchmaker of Agape Match, a matchmaking service based out of New York City. For over a decade, she has successfully combined four generations of family matchmaking tradition with modern relationship psychology and search techniques to ensure her professional clientele are introduced to their ultimate match. Maria and Agape Match have been featured in The New York Times, The Financial Times, Fast Company, CNN, Esquire, Elle, Reuters, Vice, and Thrillist.
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Dress well, take care of yourself, and be open to conversations with boys you don't know very well. It's really just about how open and approachable you are.
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How can I move from flirting to more meaningful conversation?
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Steer the conversation towards values and beliefs instead of just cracking jokes or having superficial conversations. Ask him about current events or things going on at school. Provoke conversation to go in a deeper direction. If he's receptive, he'll follow your lead.
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I started dating a boy but I'm not sure he likes me as a long-term partner. How can I tell?
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This is going to sound really basic, but just be yourself and trust your gut. If you don't know right now, you'll know soon enough. The odds are that if he's dating you, it's because he actually wants to be with you. Unless he gives you reason to think otherwise, don't assume the worst.
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Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful, not just any tight raunchy clothes.
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You don't have to shave or wear makeup if you don't want to. Do whatever makes you comfortable.
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After you talk for a while and get to know him better, start greeting him with a hug and try spending more time together
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When you're hanging around a guy, keep your arms relaxed by your sides. Doing so says you're open, confident, and makes it easier for people to approach you. If you cross your arms over your chest, he may interpret that as you're closing yourself off from him and you're not interested in talking.
If you're looking for a way to start a conversation, ask him about school events like dances or sports events. For example, you could say, "Are you going to be at the Valentine's Day Dance this week?"
Make sure your crush feels comfortable around you. Don't say things that could make him feel awkward. Be casual as if he were any of your other guy friends instead of your crush.
Stay true to yourself and don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.

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Don't assume all guys will fall for you if you use these tips.
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Be yourself, or he will only like the imaginary "you".
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Don't let anyone distract you. Keep all of your attention on him!
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Put your cell phone away! It tells guys you have more important things in your life than socializing with him.
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Don't flirt with a your crush during class, doing so will get you in trouble with your teachers. Save the flirting for during breaks or at lunch time.
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