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If you're still young, you've got plenty of time to enjoy life. If you find that you're not enjoying it as much as you could, you could try a few things to make your life better. For instance, you can learn how to deal with worries, make new friends, or learn to laugh more.
Steps
Method 1
Method 1 of 3:
Learning Not to Worry
Identify what you're anxious about. Most people get worried or anxious from time to time. However, as you grow, you can learn to deal with your worries. You still may be worried, but it won't affect your life or mood as much. The first step is identifying what you're worried about.[1]- For instance, maybe you're worried about your grades, your family, or your friendships. Maybe you're worried about an upcoming test or exam. On the other hand, maybe you've been watching the news a little too much, and you're scared about where the world is. Try writing about what you're scared about in a journal or notebook.[2]
Talk to an adult. It's best to talk to your parents, if possible. If you can't for some reason, find someone else you trust, such as a coach or teacher. If you're worrying all the time, an adult can help you sort through what to do.[3]- Even if the adult can't solve your problem, just talking to someone can help you feel better.[4]
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Solve what you can. If something you're worried about has a solution, work to bring that solution about. If you can't come up with a solution, make sure to ask your parents if they have any ideas. Because they have more experience, they may be able to figure it out.[5]
Try taking deep breaths. When you find yourself getting worried, take a moment to stop and breath. Deep breathing can help calm your stress.[6] All that means is you close your eyes and focus only on breathing deeply. Try counting to four in your head as you breathe all the way in through your nose. Breathe out through your mouth, also counting to four in your head. Keep breathing until you feel yourself calm down.
Find a happy place. When you're starting to get worried about something, find someplace that's calming to you. Maybe it's the garden in your backyard, or maybe you find peace in the kitchen, where your family is. Many people find being in nature to be calming, so take a walk if you can. Finding a place that calms you can help you deal with stress and anxiety.[7]
Be nice to your body. Anxiety can crop up more when you're not being healthy. To help cut down on your stress, eat your fruits and vegetables. Be sure to drink plenty of water, and get out and exercise every day.[8]- If you're over 13 years of age, you should be drinking at least eight glasses of water a day. To make sure you are drinking enough, try keeping water with you throughout the day. If you don't like plain water, add a squeeze of lemon or orange to help add flavor.
- Some exercises you could try include swimming, playing kickball, playing tag in the backyard, jumping rope, swinging, or running. Try to get outside and get moving every day. If the weather is cold, ask your parents if you can get a membership to the local YMCA or try playing video games that encourage you get up and move.
Go to bed. If you're not getting enough sleep, you're going to be cranky. If you're cranky, you're going to be worrying more. Make sure you are getting to bed on time so that you are getting the rest you need. Depending on your age, you may need anywhere from 8 to 10 hours of sleep a night.[9]Advertisement
Method 2
Method 2 of 3:
Making Friends
Try a script. If you have trouble making friends, that may mean you need a little practice learning what to say at home. It's fine if you need to practice a bit first. Ask your parents to help you figure out what to say to someone you'd like to be your friend or practice on your own.[10]- Make eye contact when you walk up to a kid you want to talk to. In addition, make sure you smile.[11]
- Say "Hello!" Once you've said hello, invite your new friend to sit with you at lunch or to listen to your favorite song. For instance, you could say, "Hi, I'm Jessie. I know you don't know me, but I was wondering if you wanted to sit with me at lunch?"
Try a compliment. Everyone likes to hear that they look nice or that you like the shirt they're wearing. If you want to talk to someone new, try a greeting first, but then launch into a compliment, such as "You're shirt is really awesome! I love unicorns, too."[12]- Giving someone a compliment makes them feel good, and it gives them an opportunity to say something back to you. It gives you an instant connection.
Be kind. Kindness goes along way in making friendships. For instance, maybe you could offer to help a classmate who's having trouble lifting a box, or maybe you could carry a book for someone. When you do nice things for people, they want to respond in the same way, and it can open the way for friendships.[13]
Talk to people you know. If you're not big on talking to people you don't know, start with people you do. That is, the more you hold conversations with people, the better you will be in any situation, even when making new friends.[14]
Ask your parents if you can have people over. When you make new friends, sometimes it's best to spend some time making that friendship stronger by spending more time together. If you can go to your house, you can do activities together and learn about each other.[15]
Watch what other people do. If you're unsure how to act around other kids your age, watch what other people do. See how your mom treats her friends. Watch how other kids talk to each other. The more you observe, the better you will be at doing it yourself.[16]Advertisement
Method 3
Method 3 of 3:
Enjoying Life
Giggle for your health. Laughing is good for you. It can help you make friends and it can help you feel less stressed. In fact, laughter can help relieve the tension in your muscles from stress, making you feel more relaxed.[17]
Look for things that make you laugh. While some things make most people laugh, you'll find things that you think are funny that other people don't. Learn what you think is funny by reading books that are labelled "humor," watching funny cat videos, or asking your friends and family for jokes. As you go along, you'll figure out what you think is funny. Once you do, make sure to include it as a part of your life every day so that you laugh every day.[20]
Learn to laugh at yourself. You are going to make mistakes from time to time. Everybody does. The difference is how you learn to respond. If you get angry at yourself, you're just going to make the situation tense. However, if you can learn to laugh at yourself when you've done something silly, it helps to ease the tension in the room and make you less stressed, too.[21]- For instance, if you add sugar to your dinner instead of salt, you could get angry and throw your plate. That will get your family upset at you. However, if you laugh at the silly mistake instead, everyone else will probably giggle, too. The mistake you made is not such a big one, in the scheme of things.
Tell jokes. Once you start seeing what you find funny, it's fun to tell a joke yourself. You can use one someone else told you, or you can make up one yourself.[22]- To tell one, you can introduce it if you want by saying, "Hey, I've got a joke for you." When the other person says, "okay," go ahead and tell it.
Take time to play. Everyone needs to play, even adults, though they may not always remember it. Even if you feel like you're too old for play, you still need time to let your imagination run wild. You can call it something else if it makes you feel better.[23]- For instance, you can try doodling or messing around in the garden. Kick a ball around, or enjoy a board game with a friend. You can play with your stuffed animals and dolls, even if you have to dig them out of the back of your closet.
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