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All breakups are hard, but they can hurt even more when you don't see it coming. While it might not seem like it right now, there are ways you can cope with your long term relationship ending and get on the path to healing. Read through these tips to learn how you can take care of yourself and mend your broken heart over time.
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- QuestionHow do you deal with an unexpected breakup?
Raffi Bilek, LCSW-CRaffi Bilek is a couples counselor and family therapist, and the Director of The Baltimore Therapy Center, LLC. With more than ten years of experience, he specializes in helping individuals, couples, and families save and improve their relationships. He enjoys training other therapists to work with couples through the most difficult situations, including infidelity, divorce, and more. Raffi holds a Bachelor's degree in Computer Science from Brown University and a Master's degree in Social Work from The Wurzweiler School of Social Work.
Licensed Certified Social Worker – ClinicalJournaling and confiding in a good friend can be a big help. You can also talk to a therapist, who can emotionally coach you through the aftermath. - QuestionHow do you accept the fact that your relationship is over?Raffi Bilek, LCSW-CRaffi Bilek is a couples counselor and family therapist, and the Director of The Baltimore Therapy Center, LLC. With more than ten years of experience, he specializes in helping individuals, couples, and families save and improve their relationships. He enjoys training other therapists to work with couples through the most difficult situations, including infidelity, divorce, and more. Raffi holds a Bachelor's degree in Computer Science from Brown University and a Master's degree in Social Work from The Wurzweiler School of Social Work.
Licensed Certified Social Worker – ClinicalTry coming to terms with the reality of doubt. As tough as it is, you might not get closure from your ex, and that's a very important thing to accept. Try saying an affirmation to yourself, like "I would like to know why Jay cut things off, but I may not get that."
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- Time really is the best healer. Although it doesn’t seem like it now, you’ll be able to move on from your breakup and get back to living life to the fullest.[14]Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C. Licensed Certified Social Worker – Clinical. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-rebuild-after-a-break-up#3
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201602/8-ways-recover-breakup
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C. Licensed Certified Social Worker – Clinical. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping-with-the-end-of-a-relationship#2
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-forward/201508/5-ways-move-ex-you-still-love
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201602/8-ways-recover-breakup
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/grieving-after-a-break-up-6-strategies-to-help-you-heal/
- ↑ Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C. Licensed Certified Social Worker – Clinical. Expert Interview. 15 October 2021.
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/grieving-after-a-break-up-6-strategies-to-help-you-heal/
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